by Furry Girl
"Beach boys and women sex tourists: every journalist's dream topic...
Reporters want to know if the boys are 'really' prostitutes and why the girls are paying; they have trouble figuring out who is exploiting whom. It's a bias, of course, to insist someone has to be exploiting since money and sex are involved, rather than seeing these as ordinary relationships, the kind that travelling people have been having since human life began."
-- Dr Laura Agustín, in Girls who buy sex from beach boys: Sex tourism in Bali on lauraagustin.com
This article on Bali reminds me of one of my own anecdotes: a few years ago, I spent a couple of nights on the coast of Kenya in a town called Watamu. It's the only place I've ever been where the sex tourism was about women as purchasers. It was an amusing dynamic for me to suddenly be the one propositioned by sex workers. The gorgeous beach boys would come up to the (mostly middle-aged) white women and say something like, "Would you like to go shopping?" or "Would you like company for dinner?" The guys were not overtly asking for cash for a set time period or a sex act, they seemed to want to stay in an upmarket hotel and be purchased gifts, clothing, and fancy dinners (and hopefully get some "spending money" as well).
by Furry Girl
[Updated: I didn't get enough sponsorship money to attend these events, but thank you to people who did offer a pledge. Hopefully there will be another such opportunity in the future.]
It's no secret that I'm an atheist. Debating religion was the first political issue I learned inside and out. When I was 6 or 7 years old in flyover land, understandably unaware that there was any difference between church, state, and schools, I wrote a letter to my principal demanding he address the hypocrisies of his faith. I could take apart the absurdity of religion before I learned how to do multiplication tables, and at an early age, I developed a strong affinity for science, nature, and books. (And it bums me out to see how commonly people view "science" and "nature" as opposing ideas.)
I would love to see more crossover and networking between sex workers' rights advocates and the organized skeptic, atheist, and pro-science communities. I want to bring sex work issues outside of the sex-positivity and radical sexuality scene in America. I want sex workers' rights to appeal to the sort of people who have never fisted anyone, basically. I want our serious political issues to be framed as the serious things they are, not just another branch of transgressive left-wing sexuality. (And I say this as someone who is kinky and invested in "alternative sexuality," but I draw a distinction between a human/labor rights issue and a sexual fun issue, and I wish more visible American sex workers also separated the two.)
There's a big event coming up shortly, the Reason Rally in Washington, DC, which is aiming to be the world's largest secular event. I would love to attend this as an ambassador of sorts for sex workers' rights, and to work on gaining allies in a space where I think we have a great chance at being heard. This isn't some feminist sex conference or BDSM event where sex workers aren't actually getting outside "the bubble," but something that will have a wide variety of smart people who pride themselves in looking at things logically and ripping apart emotion- and nonsense-based arguments. And, bonus! American Atheists are holding their national convention on the Sunday and Monday following the Reason Rally. Two skeptic events for the price one one (flight)! It's cool to see other "sex world" folks on these events rosters: Greta Christina and Dr Marty Klein.
by Furry Girl
As a teenager, I had a conversation with an older activist who had been arrested many times over the years. He told me his secret to staving off despair and stress during the whole process. He said something like, "When you're in jail, and the police strip search you, their goal is to humiliate you into obedience, so it's your job to turn the tables on them. I do a sexy striptease, spin around like a fucking ballerina, and tell them how hot the whole thing makes me. It takes away their power and makes them the uncomfortable ones."
These are the sorts of useful lessons I learned instead of going to high school.
"Sticking it to the man" can be about learning to draw power directly from disempowering constructs themselves. On my way to my vacation, I knew wanted to do something to express my disapproval of the TSA's cancer-machines-versus-groping "choice". (Also see National Opt Out Day set for November 24.) If there is but one superpower that I possess, it's making people feel uncomfortable through my propensity for public displays of sluttiness and general unselfconscious loud-mouthery.
Image from the @TSAagent Twitter account
Disclaimer 1: I realize that whining about flight screenings is a problem that affects mostly people on the top of the world's privilege heap, and that this conversation has been dominated by middle/upper class white men. Let's be real: the public outcry over this is because it's about crotches and nudity. No one cares if their phone calls are being recorded or if the government detains people for years without trails, they just know they don't want another dude touching their junk. I'm hoping that people will use this particularly titillating aspect of increasing government intrusion into our lives as a springboard to thinking about other civil liberties issues. (I'm actually far more bothered by how critics of surveillance like Jake and Moxie have been harassed and detained by the government lately at airports after international trips.) Overall, though, I think it's a positive thing any time that so many people - across party-lines - are freaking out and insisting upon their right to privacy. As a country, we can't agree whether it's our right to own firearms and/or get abortions, but we can all agree we don't want government agents touching our bathing suit areas.
Disclaimer 2: some children and adults have been genuinely traumatized or upset by their experiences with the TSA. I wasn't trying to belittle their pain and frustration at all, but to use my own body as a medium to protest against invasive security measures, and in a humorous way that upends the expected dynamic.
The TSA wanted to feel me up or see what I look like without clothes. I get it. I'm a sex worker. My main porn site gets about 3 million unique visitors a year, and clients pay $4 a minute to see me naked on my web cam, so the TSA's interest in me came as no surprise. Normally, I would charge for such a service, but this one was on the house. Duty, country, sacrifice, patriotism, all that.
For my voyage, I donned a see-though chemise and sheer panties under normal clothes. My nipples, crack, and pubes are all plainly visible though this ensemble. The TSA needed to make sure that I wasn't concealing any errant Al Qaeda operatives in the folds of my labia, after all. I would have done this naked, but being arrested for public nudity doesn't really help to underscore my cause, and it would screw up my vacation and turn me into a sex offender, both of which would be a real bummer. (I also considered going through while packing a huge strapon cock with my metal-free, airport-friendly Joque harness.)
The bummer is that the cancer machines at Seatac were busted for some reason, so they were just using metal detectors. But, even though I didn't get to shoot video of myself being groped, hopefully this is still amusing. (My plan was to loudly moan and fake an orgasm while being molested by the TSA.)
Here's my video from the airport, published from a net cafe at the airport. The portion shot inside the security area is about 10 solid minutes, and only the first minute of that is actually amusing, then it just goes to a long stretch of the boring ceiling while I was detained and the TSA waited for a police officer to talk to me. The cop was actually very polite to me, and seemed understanding, and just sorta vaguely let me know that maybe I shouldn't do that again, because children might see. (I told him I already picked a security line without kids, which it true.)
I hate it when people demand that I put my pants back on! (And, like I pointed out, we're not supposed to wear jackets through security. The TSA agent ordered me to violate TSA rules!) As far as I know, I am the current record holder for the nearest-to-naked a passenger has gotten at a TSA screening. I look forward to having that title stripped from me.
You're welcome to re-post or embed my video elsewhere, but I'd appreciate a link back to this blog post and crediting Furry Girl/Feminisnt.com. Apologies on the low quality - I used a small cheap digital camera to record this because I wasn't going to risk having an expensive one seized if the TSA got uppity. I edited it on the fly with the camera's own basic editing program since I no longer travel internationally with my laptop.
The TSA allows "opting out" of the "naked" scanners if you submit to a groping that some people consider a form of sexual assault - or, at the very least, creepy and uncomfortable. The TSA's goal is to use the grope-down to frighten the public into submitting to a scan which scientists at UCSF consider a cancer risk. Don't be scared like the TSA wants you to be.
Remember the children's tale of Brer Rabbit? It's time to beg not to be thrown into the briar patch. Put on your sexiest, filmsiest underthings, opt for a grope-down, have fun with it, treat it like a performance, and fake an orgasm in public next time you fly. You'll gain self-confidence, amuse and inspire other passengers, draw attention to the sexually-invasive nature of the modern airport security process, and make government employees look more predatory and inappropriate while feeling up strangers. Protesting in such a way won't change TSA regulations overnight, but it adds to the dissent and public conversation, flips around a demeaning dynamic, and for bold travelers, getting this transparent just might be the only way these days to enter an airport with a smile on your face and your dignity intact.
And hey, at least I'm not one of those public embarrassments who wear their pajamas, a blanket, and an inflatable neck pillow to the airport. For fuck's sake, people! Have some sense of propriety.
[For new readers: writing and doing projects like this doesn't make me any money, but you can always express your appreciation via my Amazon wishlist, or by donating money to my favorite nonprofit, the St James Infirmary.]
by Furry Girl
[The title for this post is a quote from Lee Harrington, from the amazing relationship roundtable titled "Your Girlfriend SUCKS!... for Money!" The context of his quote was among commentary on those of us with the overlapping traits of being sex workers, kinksters, and polyamorous/non-monogamous.]
It's no secret that my spring was really shitty. I had two bad splits from people I was involved with, and wasn't feeling motivated to do much of anything besides sleep. My summer, however has been amazing: filled with travel, good friends, excellent food, partying, sex, and seeing inspiring people fighting for various issues. If I was a low-IQ midwesterner, I'd label the season "chicken soup for the soul", but since I'm a city-dwelling vegan rationalist, I prefer "come shots for the sapient."
At the end of July, I spent 10 days in Las Vegas - which is the most loathesome place in the entire world - and ended up loving pretty much every moment of it. I was there primarily for the Desiree Alliance conference, but as coincidence would have it, the 2010 whorecon overlapped precisely with a couple of nerd conventions that I've attended in the past. I don't think I'll ever have more people I love occupying the same city at the same time.
Thank you so much to the Desiree Alliance conference organizers, volunteers, speakers, and attendees for carving out a wonderful place to be in Las Vegas for a week. I liked that an over-arching theme in so many presentations (I was mainly interested in the business tract, mind you) was the importance of working independently, and how empowering it is to be calling your own shots. I couldn't agree more.
One of the things I want to praise is the conference's expectations form, which all presenters and attendees were required to read and sign at registration. This policy was apparently based on an agreement from Dark Odyssey, at the suggestion of Sarah Sloane. It's a kick-ass statement on the rights and responsibilities of participants at a sex-positive event, so I'm quoting it in full. (Same list of expectations for attendees as for presenters/volunteers, just different titles for each form.) Readers know that I've long had a huge bee in my bonnet about people/conferences not being real allies to sex workers. Consider this a starting point for making your events safe spaces for sex workers.
Our Expectations of Presenters and Volunteers:
Our presenters and volunteers are the public face of Desiree Alliance, and we ask that all presenters and volunteers agree to support the following ideals during their time at the conference:
A) As a presenter or volunteer, you are in a position of trust regarding attendees' identities & levels of privacy. In order to protect all attendees, we ask that you:
-Respect that some attendees have separate identities for separate parts of their lives; do not disclose personal information about them without their express permission.
-Do not share with people outside of the Desiree Alliance conference any information about who is and is not in attendance.
-Identify them at the conference with the name that is on their badge, even if you know them by another name.
B) You understand and agree to practice the principles of Desiree Alliance including diversity, respect, tolerance, acceptance, openness, and non-judgmental support. You understand and agree to not make any assumptions as to the sexual orientation, partner choice, physical ability, race, spiritual affiliation or belief, class, kink or sex work interests of any attendee.
C) You understand and agree to practice a gender neutral policy. Desiree Alliance is committed to being a safe, inclusive, welcoming, and positive space for people of all genders. We ask that you do not make any assumptions about someone's gender identity, genital configuration, or the pronouns they prefer. Please respect everyone's self-identification. If you are unsure about how someone would like to be referred to, please just ask them.
D) You will take your role as presenter or volunteer seriously and professionally. Know that you are a representative of Desiree Alliance. You will not use your position to practice or promote classist, sexist, racist, homophobic, or other kinds of bigoted behavior. You will abide by the rules of the conference which include local laws and hotel policies.
I was involved in a couple of presentations, both of which seemed to be quite well-received.
The first was one I did was titled "Solo girl: An introduction to operating your own porn site". I was nervous about being able to condense all the material I wanted to cover into a 40-minute time slot, but amazingly, I did so, with 4 minutes to spare. I skipped out on all the personal storytelling, and went at things point-by-point, hitting the most useful and practical advice I could think of for aspiring indie pornographers. I will not be posting my slides or notes for this presentation online. It remains my opinion that if you're serious about starting a business, you can be serious enough to travel to an industry conference for your new chosen profession.
The second was a panel I did with Amanda Brooks, Dr Brooke Magnanti (Belle de Jour), and Alex Sotirov, titled "Safety for Sex Workers Through Personal Privacy: Digital and Real-World Techniques For Safeguarding Your Identity and Your Life". I believe that a recording of this panel will be made available soon, and I'll post that once it appears. Brooke and Alex are also planning to expand a bit on the material they covered at the conference, and I'll post their notes here. (Not sure if Amanda plans on posting her materials on her own blog, but she highly recommended the book "How To Be Invisible" by JJ Luna.) I'll also post a separate entry covering my portion of the panel. This topic could have easily been a half-day workshop, but I think the four of us did a kick-ass job of narrowing things down to the most important basics that every sex worker needs to know.
To get a feel for what else went on at the conference, see the schedule here. Personally, my favorites were Dr Joycelyn Elders' keynote, Kimberlee Cline and Mariko Passion's talk on coming out to friends and family, Kirk Read's keynote (watch video), Serpent Libertine and Bebe's ethical sex worker discussion, Nina Hartley's keynote (watch video), and the roundtable on sex workers and relationships.
I especially liked the relationship discussion because it's a subject that's been extra-present in my life this year, and it's good to be amongst other people who've experienced similar issues at some point or another. I had been with a primary partner/dominant I was in love with, but no matter how happy I was at any given moment, there was always an unspoken expiration date on our relationship. What he was really looking for for a girl who restrains her kink to the bedroom, her weirdness to an annual trip to Burning Man, and was, overall, a person with a non-embarrassing occupation with whom he could have a litter of children in the suburbs and share a mostly heteronormative life. That is not now, or ever will be me.
The transgressions I've made against traditional society (as a sterilized, clamorous, out-and-proud sex working pervert) aren't things that most people can deal with. They're not piercings you can remove, tattoos you can cover, funny-colored hair you can dye back to normal, or the occasional tab of acid you can plausibly deny ever having taken. They're not surface-level personality quirks purchased from Hot Topic - they're the things that define the core of who I am as a human being. Through the experiences with my main ex, along with having another guy ditch me solely on the grounds of my being a sex worker, I've been coming to realize how deeply and permanently totally fucking aberrant I am in the eyes of society, and that I need to work even more diligently at repelling mates who aren't okay with who I am. (I already knew I was weird, and tried my best to warn people of that, but I'm apparently not working fervently enough at this task.)
My contribution to the relationship discussion was pointing out that those of us who are sexually different in some way or another are basically in two camps when it comes to finding mates. You can try to gently ease people in - such as another person's suggestion that one start out by telling a partner that they used to be a dancer and see how the they react, and then consider telling them the whole truth from there. This has never been my strategy, because it means hiding who I am by default, and the whole dynamic seems designed to put sex workers on the defensive about the lies and omitted truths upon which they founded their relationships. It's too sneaky and dishonest for me. My strategy is one I flatly referred to as the scare 'em away plan. I am upfront with anyone I consider dating or hooking up with- I want them to run away, as soon as humanly possible, if they know they aren't going to be okay with me making a living taking my clothes off for strangers. I don't want to build a sexual and romantic relationship with someone - pulling a bait and switch, essentially - and tell them the truth only after they've gotten attached to me. Such a dynamic seems doomed to fail and hurt all parties, although it does work out for some sex workers.
And anyway, why would I want to fuck someone who might be anti-sex worker? A few years ago I had a brief tryst with a guy whom I later learned to be a homophobe, and I felt so icky that someone like that got to have his dick in my mouth. I can't imagine wanting to set myself up for such potentially disgusting and hurtful discoveries every single time I got involved with anyone. I don't want to fuck or love people who might despise me if they actually knew the truth about me. So yes, please- let them run screaming, because I'd be running away screaming, too.
Dating/mating as a sex worker isn't easy. I wish we could have a weekend retreat or unconference on this subject, open to sex workers and their partners. I wonder if there would be many takers for such a thing if I tried to cat-herd people into doing that at some time in the future?
by Furry Girl
I'm still on the road this week, but I wanted to post a quick "I'm still alive" in the wake of the amazing Desiree Alliance conference last week. I'll have a proper blog post on the conference shortly, but I thought I'd share a few photos in the mean time.
Myself and Larry Flynt's gold wheelchair at The Erotic Heritage Museum:
My self-modified guest badge to attend an event at Blackhat, a hacker conference going on at the same time as whorecon:
The day after our conference, Kimberlee Cline suggested that we go to Lake Mead so her dog, Stella, could get some exercise. Thus began an afternoon of jokes involving wet bitches and hot whores. Here's Elizabeth from Detroit, Kimberlee, and myself, photographed by Don:
On the way back from the lake, I spotted a Walmart-sized megachurch and insisted we pull off the highway for a photo op. Here's Kimberlee in the hat and me in the red dress:
by Furry Girl
I sometimes worry that I come across online as a mean and spiteful person. This is an inaccurate picture of me, but it's my own fault for not creating enough filler content about myself. The thing is, I simply don't feel moved to write an impassioned treatise about a great marinara sauce I made, or a funny video I saw on YouTube, or even a hot fantasy that popped into my head while masturbating. (I'm simply awful at trying to translate sexual experiences into arousing and readable text.) I'm someone who writes about things that really upset and engage me. My mental subtitle of my blog is a quote from one of my heroes' standup routines: "This is just a series of things that are pissing me off."
To balance that out a bit and make me seem less like an insane bag lady always yelling at buildings and statues, here's a more harmonious post on my life as a pornographer.
The time: 6 months ago. The setting: a Russian boat doing a cruise of the Antarctic peninsula. The goal: editing a lot of porn and seeing a lot of cute animals. (The resulting non-pornographic photos? Here.) The following are a few thoughts I wrote during my voyage and have had hidden away in my drafts folder. Now that it's oppressively hot outside, it's time to remember getting cold.
On our first day of sailing in open seas, passengers didn't have much to do besides attend lectures on things like different types of seabirds and why global warming is bad, which I mostly skipped so I could do some work. I was in the middle of editing some photos of Calico when an announcement came on that a group of three female humpback whales was off the side of the boat. I closed my computer, put on my fuzzy boots, and joining dozens of other people racing up the stairs to get a quick glimpse at the whales as they moved into the distance. It's a strange and wonderful thing to be interrupted from editing pornography by whale sightings.
It had been my intention from long before my cruise was booked that I make strapon porn in Antarctica. I had wanted to do it actually out on the ice, but during our off-ship excursions, we ended up being much more supervised than I thought we would. (Which is a good thing- I'm glad staff told people to not try to harass penguins or scramble around on delicate areas. Though, it was amusing to watch the Japanese couple repeatedly pretend they didn't understand English only when they were told to not try and pet the penguins.) As the days went on, I also couldn't sniff out any real perverts or oddballs on the ship to help me out behind the camera with shooting some naked or strapon photos. I asked the cute Australian guy I'd been chatting up and he got all blushy and said that would be too "awkward" for him - despite my repeatedly asking him. Poor normal boys - scared of my cock.
With a number of people around all the time, I accepted that getting naked off the ship would mean exposing myself to them. Not a worry - I'm not shy. So, on a "warm" day, I asked the nicest guy on the cruise, "Can I borrow you for a minute?" We tourists were always doing this - flagging someone down to take our pictures in front of something. He knew the drill and trudged over as I handed him my camera, asking, "You're not offended by nudity, are you?" He was not. I quickly stripped off my many layers , including my boots and two layers of socks, and ran out into the snow. He quickly shot some photos of me as a staff member looked amused but slightly uncomfortable, and then I raced to put my clothing back on. My feet hurt for the rest of the day - not officially frostbite or anything, but I felt like I was walking on pins. But look at the glory that resulted:
I think I became the gossip of the trip after this. I even had one woman pull me aside excitedly a few days later and ask ,"Is it true what they're saying - that you got naked?!"
So, my first pornographic mission was accomplished, but I was running out of time and desperate to make use of my pretty new white Joque harness. While it's one thing to ask a person to shoot some nudes of you, it's another to ask him to shoot photos of you jerking off a big strapon. I ended up taking those photos myself, aboard the ship. These were shot off the coast of Deception Island, which is off the northern coast of the Antarctic Peninsula. I returned on an early boat from that morning's outing so I could make use of the side decks while people wouldn't be milling around on them. I don't know if anyone saw me, but it would have amused me greatly if one of the elderly couples decided to go for a stroll on the deck at that moment.
by Furry Girl
My trip to New York City was a whirlwind of amazing, and I've barely had time to wash my clothes and read my email before I'm back to the airport tomorrow- although, this time, for a family visit.
I knew I was going to visit New York this fall to shoot for Cocksexual.com, and the universe was especially kind in putting together a great week of pervert events so I could have fun in the evenings, too. Alongside a full dance card of taking pictures of cocks, there was also a sex-positive drinkup, the Sex Worker Literati reading series, the 2010 Sex Blogger Calendar release party, and Audacia Ray's second screening of her Pay As You Go collection of shorts. (Thank you to the organizers of these events!)
I was able to shoot 8 new models for the site, from cute boner-filled posing to an amazing double-penetration scene. (This was my first time shooting a DP, and I found it challenging to know what to focus on when there's so much hotness happening all at once. I love meeting new challenges!) The cheapie light kit has been great to work with- it packs down small enough that I can fit everything in a large backpack. In spite of some hurdles like missed trains, lost models, and the A and C subways not operating, everything still ended up working out, and 23 gigs of great porn was shot.
I feel as though I was dragged quickly through a massive scrumptious buffet, and barely had a chance to stick my fork in but a few trays of food as I passed. I met and caught up with many great sexual intellectuals, but it was all so short. Ten minutes of conversation here, a late-night dinner there, a quick hug and "nice to see you!" shouted in a crowded bar in the middle, and I have found myself back at home, wondering what happened to me. As a bit of a recluse, that level of constant social interactions dazzles me, and I wonder if that's actually just what every week is like for normal people- the ones who don't work at home, in fleece pants, cat on their lap, with podcasts to keep them apprised of the outside world.
I've officially declared February 1st to be the launch date of Cocksexual.com, so that's when you'll get to see all the great stuff I've been doing.
As always, I am seeking models, but right now, I am most interested in finding cisgender (non-trans) men to work with in the Bay Area or Seattle. If you are a cisguy, partnered to one, or know one who might be interested in being pegged on camera, check out my casting page.
A parting shot:
by Furry Girl
I was recently in the Bay Area for two noble purposes: shooting strapon porn and attending the third Arse Elektronika conference. And, somewhere in-between, accomplishing plenty of eating, drinking, and socializing with many of my favorite nerdverts.
On the porn end of things, I got a lot done. I shot my first five models for Cocksexual.com, including this lovely lady:
There was much cuteness to be had, as well as hot cocksucking, fucking, drag and gender play, jerking off, and a certain amazing woman who can suck her own dick. (You'll have to wait until February 2010 to see who!)
I also had a great time at Arse Elektronika. Here's Annalee Newitz (currently of io9.com fame) presenting her talk on the history and future of love, with potential scenarios for how we might be having relationships 300 years from now.
Thank you to all of the awesome people with whom I had a chance to re-connect or meet for the first time! It would take me too long to list you all, but know that you're still my beautiful and unique snowflakes (of frozen sexual secretions).
One of the themes of conversation for the weekend was how We (in the most royal and vague sense) would like to live in a world where They accept our kinks, geekery, genders, and modes of sexual expression. While I was in that frame of mind for the conference, many San Franciscans were spending their Saturday having a daytime rave. The BART into the city was besieged by young people in their best "freak" outfits comprised of shiny/neon things from American Apparel. They were there to have fun and play weirdo dress-up for a day, and then go back to being frat boys and Forever 21 clerks or whatever it is that normal young people do.
It was a contrast that highlighted an important social division for me. Some of us try to de-stigmatize our communities, while others work to stigmatize themselves (in shallow, temporary ways). It's interesting to observe which subcultures revolve around which approach.
by Furry Girl
Organizer Scarlot Harlot during a screening. I thought she looked lovely in this light.
At the beginning of June, I spent 10 days in the Bay Area. I was in town primarily for the 2009 Sex Worker Film Festival, but I also had a chance to go to shoot photos of Roxxie (and vice versa), pick up a new fuck buddy, tour Kink.com, get kissed and spanked by a number of cute boys and girls, and have lunches with famous folks like Dr. Marty Klein, Violet Blue [photo], and Thomas Roche, so it was a well-rounded (and sleep-deprived) adventure.
Of the many events of the festival, I attended Whore-A-Palooza, which included movies and performances in a bar; Sex Work, Trafficking and Labor Migration: Views from Inside The Sex Industry, which featured movies and discussion; Cirque X, a benefit for the St. James Infirmary; and the main event, the Sex Worker Film Festival at The Roxie, which ran all day on Saturday. (However, in true slut fashion, I didn't make it until the 6pm block of movies because I'd been up past sunrise the night before screwing in a hot tub after the benefit party. Many thanks to Match for supplying me with condoms and lube for said screwing. You're a true sex worker ally, baby.)
The main movie event was a powerful night of hanging out in the Roxie with sex worker activists, allies, and other interested folk. The materials ranged from horribly sad to sweet and funny, and the real standout for me was Carolyn Allain's A Safer Sex Trade. The 48-minute film covered the lives of three different people in Vancouver, Canada: a middle-aged escort/madam who'd been in the business a long time, a young independent escort with high hourly rates, and a former street worker turned volunteer who delivers free food to women still working outdoors in dangerous parts of the city. (Read more about the film, view the trailer, or order the DVD here.)
I'm really glad I made a point of traveling for the event, and I look forward to the next one.
If you're looking for a way to contribute to meaningful sex worker projects, I highly recommend donating to San Francisco's St. James Infirmary, which has been facing severe budget cuts this year.
by Furry Girl
* Saturday, May 30: Radar Spectacle Benefit with Michelle Tea and more
* Sunday, May 31: BelleBazaar: An Orgy of Shopping
* Sunday, May 31: SWOP Benefit Party at Diva's
* Monday, June 1: SWOP Roundtable and Hospitality Day
* Tuesday, June 2: Whore-A-Palooza
* Wednesday, Thursday, June 3 & 4: Army of Lovers
* Friday, June 5th: Migration, Sex Work and The Evil Empire: Movies and Discussion
* Friday, June 5th: Cirque X, a St. James Infirmary benefit
* Saturday, June 6th: Movies at The Roxie
* Sunday, June 7th: Intersections: Krip Sex! Krip Sex Work!
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New to my blog? Some favorite posts
- "You have no right to dislike feminism after all it's done for you!"
- "You misrepresent true feminism by focusing on the bad feminists. They're not real feminists anyway!"
- An argument for more sex workers to be out?
- Degrading, violent desires
- Do you have what it takes to be an empowered sex worker?
- Feminism is the shitty relationship you had in your early 20s
- Feminist porn isn't a branch of sex workers' rights, it's an obstacle
- How are we branding sex workers rights in the US? (Let's focus more on *worker*, less on *sex*!)
- How to do your homework on trafficking, "rescue", and the affected communities
- Let's stop pretending that "objectification" is a thing that exists
- Musings on ethical porn and the red herrings of "feminist porn" and "violent porn"
- My call for a "working" class uprising against inaccessible discourse and the over-representation of dabblers
- Sex trafficking is the new crack: manufactured "epidemics" as political tools
- The common logical fallacies deployed by anti-sex worker activists
- Things I've gained from being a sex worker: an anti-paternalistic perspective
- Vigilantism and 'crushing bastards': in praise of anger, hatred, and taking joy in the smiting of one's enemies
- Want to play BINGO with the antis?
- Watch out for psuedoscience: my long-time nemeses of concern trolling and "teaching the controversy"
- What do I mean when I say "sex worker"? Why I'm against an overly-broad definition
- Why I call them "anti-sex worker" rather than "anti-porn" or "anti-prostitution," and why you should too
Favorite sex/ho blogs
- Amanda Brooks
- Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers
- Belle de Jour
- Born Whore
- Bound, Not Gagged
- Dan Savage on SLOG
- Danny Wylde
- Jiz Lee
- Kat's Stories
- Laura Agustín
- Lux Nightmare [2006-2007]
- Maggie McNeill
- Our Porn, Ourselves
- Sequoia Redd
- Serpent Libertine
- Sex Worker Pie Charts
- Sexonomics by Brooke Magnanti
- Shit They Say to Sex Workers
- Stuff Sex Workers Eat
- Whore Madonna