by Furry Girl
While I still say that Jasmine in Independence Day reigns supreme when it comes to a positive, realistic portrayal of a sex worker in a mainstream movie, I wanted to do some gender balancing and write about another favorite sex worker character. I asked my Twitter followers if they could guess my favorite man ho, and no one could. Like Jasmine in Independence Day, this character is from a family-friendly, big-budget movie, not a "kooky" comedy, a thriller/horror where a cliche killer targets sex workers, or a movie that's R-rated and centers on sex work as a titillating plot device to illustrate how fucked up a person is, like the depression porn that is Leaving Las Vegas.
My favorite "male" fictional sex worker character is the android prostitute Gigolo Joe from Steven Spielberg's Artificial Intelligence, played by Jude Law. (Law played a sex worker in another favorite entertainment, Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil. The saying on my blog, next to my photo, is a quote from that book/movie describing the bisexual hustler Danny: "A good time not yet had by all." However, that's a true crime book/movie, not a favorite character of fiction.)
Artificial Intelligence is a retelling of Pinocchio set in the not-so-distant future where realistic androids, called "mecha," have become a normal part of the servant class relied upon by wealthier people. A tech company decides to test a prototype mecha child, named David, which is the first of its kind programmed to feel genuine love and permanently imprint on a set of parents. This scifi fairy tale follows David's quest to find "the blue fairy" from the children's book, whom he believes can turn him into a real boy as she did Pinocchio. David does all sorts of charming and precocious things as he bonds with the family of one of the company's employees, but things go awry when the couple's biological son torments David until he repeatedly creates dangerous situations while trying to defend himself from the cruelty of humans. Rather than having him destroyed as they're supposed to, David's human "mother" cares about him enough to set him free in the woods, where he has no idea what dangers await him. After being discarded, David meets a "lover mecha" named Gigolo Joe as the two flee from both the police and a luddite band that captures and destroys mecha for amusement, all while searching for David's mythical blue fairy so he can "become real" in order to win his "mother's" affections.
What I like best about Artificial Intelligence is that it poses questions. I don't really have a stance on ethics of artificial life, but I look forward to seeing such debates play out in the coming decades. What rights or considerations, if any, would you want to extend to artificial life form? Is "violence" against an android immoral? These topics have been dealt with via Lt. Data in Star Trek: The Next Generation, the rapes of sexy "female" cylons in Battlestar Galactica, the uprising of machines in The Matrix, and other science fiction stories that ask questions about our moral obligations to technology that we create to be our slaves. I like the addition of sex work to the topic, which seems like a natural progression, since we all know that as soon as we get new technologies, we rush to figure out how to have sex with it or use it to create or transmit porn.
But, what does the movie say about sex workers, especially this particular android sex worker? I've edited some of Gigolo Joe's most relevant scenes into the 13-minute clip below. Above all, I love that a family-friendly movie has a small "child's" only real friend be an fugitive hooker who never expresses a single desire to "escape" his occupation/programming. (Unlike David, who desperately wants to be more than what he is. Being an cute and loving mecha child is a terrible curse, but being a mecha prostitute is apparently pretty awesome.) I also like the idea of stripping away the boring "...but why did you turn out this way?" sad-story-time character development normally seen in movies with sex workers. Gigolo Joe wasn't the product of a broken home and molestation and forced sex trafficking, he is was created because human society needs prostitutes. The fact that so many "lover mecha" seem to exist in this world speaks to the profession's permanence and the important role sex workers (be they android or human) fill in society. Gigalo Joe isn't so much a character as an inextricable part of us. Very bold stuff for a family-friendly movie to be insinuating. It's an outsider story where the sex worker character is not an outsider because of his occupation, but because he is not flesh-and-blood, and that deep divide is the serious one, not sex worker versus civilian.
The only thing the movie is sorely lacking with this character is explaining how exactly Gigolo Joe's financial structure is set up. Is he an independent sentient who keeps his fee, or does he have some kind of agency, renting him out like a DVD? And what does a mecha prostitute spend his money on, anyway? These are the answers we need!
Click the screenshot to watch the .mov file in your browser, or click here to download and watch in Quicktime (.mov) format, which is 22mb. Spoilers about the movie contained within, obviously.
What this movie tells us about sex workers, Gigolo Joe, and the society that created him:
* Sex workers can be patient and compassionate lovers.
* Sex workers can be amateur therapists.
* Sex workers can encourage people to leave abusive partners and find something better.
* Sex workers appreciate tips from motel owners about how to avoid danger.
* Sex workers can tailor their appearance and demeanor to please different clients.
* Sex workers sometimes have to deal with vengeful, crazy spouses of their clients.
* Sex workers don't like licensing schemes, and will operate illegally if it keeps them safer.
* Sex workers aren't shy about listing their best qualities for you.
* Sex workers can participate in quests to help others realize their deepest desires.
* Sex workers can be very resourceful and know where to go in town to find anything.
* Sex workers can get a lot of business from conflicted religious people.
* Sex workers can get arrested. (And if you're a good friend, you'll spring them from police custody.)
* Sex workers instinctively know how to operate futuristic helicopter submarines.
* Sex workers can be heroes who help people in times of need.
* Sex workers are safe to have around even the most adorable children.
by Furry Girl
I'm not a hardcore nerd the way some of my wonderful friends are, so what I like with geek events are discussions of social implications of technologies, surveillance, privacy, anonymity, and fighting state power and censorship. Most of these recommended videos are from the 28th Chaos Communication Congress, which concluded a couple of weeks ago. These are my favorites, but you can find even more talks from the CCC by searching for "28c3" on YouTube.
How Governments have tried to block Tor by Jacob Appelbaum and Roger Dingledine [description]. Some amount of nerd jargon, a basic understanding of how the internet and censorship works is helpful. Something to love here is both speaker's insistence that it's not about things like "Tor versus China," but the Chinese government versus their people. There's good discussion of context and how things work differently under different regimes, and how ultimately, Tor developers want to help people decide their own fates in their own countries, and the life-or-death importance of truth in marketing when you offer a censorship circumvention tool. It's valuable to look at how censorship is deployed in the world's most oppressive countries, and that those censorship tools are developed and sold by American companies like Cisco and Nokia, much like how IBM colluded with the Nazis during WWII.
Marriage from Hell: On the Secret Love Affair Between Dictators and Western Technology Companies by Evgeny Morozov [description]. Morozov is one of my favorite tweeters, the author of The Net Delusion: The Dark Side of Internet Freedom, and is fun to read for his snarky skepticism of the popular mentality that says that "the internet" magically makes activism and politics better. (I'd call him a delightfully crabby old man, but he's a year younger than me.) This talk has very little nerd jargon, and assumes you're already aware that US tech companies knowingly sell things to dictatorships to help them oppress people.
Macro dragnets: Why trawl the river when you can do the whole ocean by Redbeard [description]. Low amount of nerd jargon. Redbeard is an awesome activist/hacker friend, and this talk takes a very quick jaunt though the basics of a wide array of data mining/collection/storage: US Customs and Immigration, DNA databases, voter records, facial/iris recognition, the data that Amazon stores on customer, IdentifyRioters.com, criminal/prison information collection, and more. (If this topic interests you, Steve Rambam's multi-hour talks at HOPE are accessible and awesome.)
If you're into nerd-jargon-heavy stuff, Meredith Patterson's talk on The Science of Insecurity is a fun take on security from the perspective of someone who studies linguistics, math, and programming. Another honorable mention goes to Your Disaster/Crisis/Revolution Just Got Pwned by Tomate and Willow. Low amount of nerd jargon, this is aimed at hacktivists/coders on how humanitarian groups respond to disasters and crises. I especially like that it emphasizes self-care, taking breaks, getting sleep, and keeping a sense of humor. Stressed is the importance of knowing how secure your tools really are before suggesting people trust their lives to them, as well as taking an approach that focuses on the needs of people you're trying to help, rather then selling them on using something you created without their input. "Don't make a solution for a problem that doesn't exist." (Good advice for any activist.)
And, from back in October, I finally got around to watching Jacob Appelbaum speaking at an internet activism conference in Sweden on Internet surveillance, censorship, and avenues of resistance with anonymity. Low amount of nerd jargon, scroll down to the fourth video on the linked page. This talk includes the importance of privacy-by-design rather than privacy-by-policy, and how the specter of "child pornography" prevents people from questioning the "need" for internet filtering, and how the state functions as the real terrorists who most threaten our freedom. I appreciate Jake's noting of the West's "othering" of censorship, assuming it's just an issue for foreigners and those in Arab dictatorships. "Technological utopianism is really part of the problem."
And, finally, a bonus item, so long as I'm throwing out suggestions: PBS's Ascent of Money miniseries, available free online. This four-hour documentary by Niall Ferguson is wonderful at making financial history of the world interesting, from the development of math and bookkeeping, how money has driven trade and colonization, determined the course of wars and revolutions, all the way up to hedge funds, derivatives, the current financial mess. I've been looking to learn more about economics, and this is a highly recommended primer on everything from the history of stock, commerce, insurance, and how the real estate crash that's destroying America's poor and middle class was brought about by decades-earlier attempts to quash the appeal of communism. Really, even if you're not curious about economics, this is a cool history of the not-so-well-known drunks, murderers, gamblers, entrepreneurs, and clergy who got us where we are today.
by Furry Girl
Until they notice and modify it, any tweet with the word "trafficking" is posted on the front page of demiandashton.org, a celebrity foundation that conflates child sex slavery and consensual adult sex work. They will no doubt start screening featured tweets soon, so jump on it now. This bug/feature has been used by sex workers' rights supporters since about noon on Wednesday, and is still in effect, please use it to post real information about trafficking and sex work, such as:
Video: SEX WORKERS WANT TO STOP TRAFFICKING http://bit.ly/goDVC7
Videos from sex workers in developing world often cover how anti-trafficking orgs harm them http://sexworkerspresent.blip.tv
Learn about real trafficking issues from researcher Laura Agustín: http://www.lauraagustin.com
Want to help trafficking victims? Don't give your money to celebs, give it to shelters like Youthcare: http://bit.ly/qlW5eJ
The clients of sex workers are not boogeymen hoping to rape children. They don't deserve to be lumped in with trafficking.
Sex workers support the fight against trafficking. See a list of our own orgs here: http://www.swaay.org/groups.html
Guerilla warfare is about small groups going up against a strong, larger enemy, and using that large enemy's own resources against them. Come participate in some electronic guerilla warfare that uses these celeb's fame to tell the world what's actually going on about sex work and human trafficking. Hat tip to @iamcuriousblue for pointing out the Twitter widget on Kutcher's site, which was ripe for re-purposing once I figured out that it posts anything mentioning the T-word.
The long-term question is, after the site gets modified to exclude criticism, how can sex workers' rights supporters use Kutcher's fame campaign against him to publicize truths about sex work and how to really help trafficking victims?
Update: Belle de Jour suggested buying up misspellings of the domain and pointing them at better resources. I bought DemiNAshton.org/.com, which are now forwarding to SWAAY.org. Viviane suggested keeping an eye on these charity event calendars if we're looking for DNA events to protest: CharityHappenings.org and Eventful.com. If anyone knows of an upcoming event/appearance for Kutcher/Moore/the DNA Foundation, please share the info so it can be met with a sex worker-led protest!
by Furry Girl
As a teenager, I had a conversation with an older activist who had been arrested many times over the years. He told me his secret to staving off despair and stress during the whole process. He said something like, "When you're in jail, and the police strip search you, their goal is to humiliate you into obedience, so it's your job to turn the tables on them. I do a sexy striptease, spin around like a fucking ballerina, and tell them how hot the whole thing makes me. It takes away their power and makes them the uncomfortable ones."
These are the sorts of useful lessons I learned instead of going to high school.
"Sticking it to the man" can be about learning to draw power directly from disempowering constructs themselves. On my way to my vacation, I knew wanted to do something to express my disapproval of the TSA's cancer-machines-versus-groping "choice". (Also see National Opt Out Day set for November 24.) If there is but one superpower that I possess, it's making people feel uncomfortable through my propensity for public displays of sluttiness and general unselfconscious loud-mouthery.
Image from the @TSAagent Twitter account
Disclaimer 1: I realize that whining about flight screenings is a problem that affects mostly people on the top of the world's privilege heap, and that this conversation has been dominated by middle/upper class white men. Let's be real: the public outcry over this is because it's about crotches and nudity. No one cares if their phone calls are being recorded or if the government detains people for years without trails, they just know they don't want another dude touching their junk. I'm hoping that people will use this particularly titillating aspect of increasing government intrusion into our lives as a springboard to thinking about other civil liberties issues. (I'm actually far more bothered by how critics of surveillance like Jake and Moxie have been harassed and detained by the government lately at airports after international trips.) Overall, though, I think it's a positive thing any time that so many people - across party-lines - are freaking out and insisting upon their right to privacy. As a country, we can't agree whether it's our right to own firearms and/or get abortions, but we can all agree we don't want government agents touching our bathing suit areas.
Disclaimer 2: some children and adults have been genuinely traumatized or upset by their experiences with the TSA. I wasn't trying to belittle their pain and frustration at all, but to use my own body as a medium to protest against invasive security measures, and in a humorous way that upends the expected dynamic.
The TSA wanted to feel me up or see what I look like without clothes. I get it. I'm a sex worker. My main porn site gets about 3 million unique visitors a year, and clients pay $4 a minute to see me naked on my web cam, so the TSA's interest in me came as no surprise. Normally, I would charge for such a service, but this one was on the house. Duty, country, sacrifice, patriotism, all that.
For my voyage, I donned a see-though chemise and sheer panties under normal clothes. My nipples, crack, and pubes are all plainly visible though this ensemble. The TSA needed to make sure that I wasn't concealing any errant Al Qaeda operatives in the folds of my labia, after all. I would have done this naked, but being arrested for public nudity doesn't really help to underscore my cause, and it would screw up my vacation and turn me into a sex offender, both of which would be a real bummer. (I also considered going through while packing a huge strapon cock with my metal-free, airport-friendly Joque harness.)
The bummer is that the cancer machines at Seatac were busted for some reason, so they were just using metal detectors. But, even though I didn't get to shoot video of myself being groped, hopefully this is still amusing. (My plan was to loudly moan and fake an orgasm while being molested by the TSA.)
Here's my video from the airport, published from a net cafe at the airport. The portion shot inside the security area is about 10 solid minutes, and only the first minute of that is actually amusing, then it just goes to a long stretch of the boring ceiling while I was detained and the TSA waited for a police officer to talk to me. The cop was actually very polite to me, and seemed understanding, and just sorta vaguely let me know that maybe I shouldn't do that again, because children might see. (I told him I already picked a security line without kids, which it true.)
I hate it when people demand that I put my pants back on! (And, like I pointed out, we're not supposed to wear jackets through security. The TSA agent ordered me to violate TSA rules!) As far as I know, I am the current record holder for the nearest-to-naked a passenger has gotten at a TSA screening. I look forward to having that title stripped from me.
You're welcome to re-post or embed my video elsewhere, but I'd appreciate a link back to this blog post and crediting Furry Girl/Feminisnt.com. Apologies on the low quality - I used a small cheap digital camera to record this because I wasn't going to risk having an expensive one seized if the TSA got uppity. I edited it on the fly with the camera's own basic editing program since I no longer travel internationally with my laptop.
The TSA allows "opting out" of the "naked" scanners if you submit to a groping that some people consider a form of sexual assault - or, at the very least, creepy and uncomfortable. The TSA's goal is to use the grope-down to frighten the public into submitting to a scan which scientists at UCSF consider a cancer risk. Don't be scared like the TSA wants you to be.
Remember the children's tale of Brer Rabbit? It's time to beg not to be thrown into the briar patch. Put on your sexiest, filmsiest underthings, opt for a grope-down, have fun with it, treat it like a performance, and fake an orgasm in public next time you fly. You'll gain self-confidence, amuse and inspire other passengers, draw attention to the sexually-invasive nature of the modern airport security process, and make government employees look more predatory and inappropriate while feeling up strangers. Protesting in such a way won't change TSA regulations overnight, but it adds to the dissent and public conversation, flips around a demeaning dynamic, and for bold travelers, getting this transparent just might be the only way these days to enter an airport with a smile on your face and your dignity intact.
And hey, at least I'm not one of those public embarrassments who wear their pajamas, a blanket, and an inflatable neck pillow to the airport. For fuck's sake, people! Have some sense of propriety.
[For new readers: writing and doing projects like this doesn't make me any money, but you can always express your appreciation via my Amazon wishlist, or by donating money to my favorite nonprofit, the St James Infirmary.]
by Furry Girl
At last month's Desiree Alliance conference, I recommended a talk called "Privacy Is Dead- Get Over It", by private investigator Steve Rambam. He has been giving versions of this talk for years, and this latest version was given at The Next HOPE in New York City in July 2010. It's not at all geared towards a sex worker audience, nor is it about how to avoid stalkers and other pests that sex workers face, but it's an excellent general introduction to how our "private" lives are anything but.
While Rambam's personal politics are of a conservative bent, he seems to take delight in shattering any lingering illusions of the paranoid and privacy-conscious, spelling out how our lives are all being tracked by private investigators, telecommunications companies, and non-governmental databases. This is the talk I try to get people to watch if they're curious about the idea of personal privacy in the digital age, and they tend to come away horrified.
Unlike a lot of material out there on the privacy topic, Rambam's talk is not about how The Government spies on us, it's about how corporations spy on us- and how we, as individuals, are the ones who help them do so. When a friend of mine got out of prison, I asked him if they had him on an ankle monitor. He held up his smart phone and said, "No, but I got me on this!" Personally, I pay AT&T $143 a month to track my whereabouts at all times. This is why I hate it when silly little lefties say stuff like "Orwell was right" or "We're living in Orwellian times now". No, no we're not. Orwell was wrong, Ray Bradbury was right. We The People will not be oppressed by force and coercion and frightening big brothers, we will gleefully and willingly give up any and all personal liberties in the name of gaining shiny amusements. Oh hey, did you hear the a iPhone is coming out? Let's go wait in line all day!
This year's talk focuses heavily on how Google catalogs everything about you in order to sell you things, and just how much data we are all hemorrhaging every time we do anything online, make a phone call, or even just carry our mobile phones around with us. (News to me was Google's upcoming plans to be an electric utility that uses smart grid technology. This means they'll know what you're doing with your appliances and light switches, down to when you open your refrigerator door. I wonder if a Hitachi Magic Wand gives off some sort of unique power-draining signature in the outlet in your bedroom? Ceiling cat is watching you masturbate!)
Jacob Appelbaum, another speaker from The Next HOPE conference who I mentioned last month, touched upon Google in a recent Rolling Stone piece: "It's not just the state. If it wanted to, Google could overthrow any country in the world. Google has enough dirt to destroy every marriage in America. [...] At some point people are going to realize that Google has everything on everyone. Most of all, they can see what questions you're asking, in real time. Quite literally, they can read your mind."
by Furry Girl
"So, I want to quote from one of my personal heroes. I was going to give you a quote from my friend Daniel Ellsberg, but I think that Moxie Marlinspike fits with this crowd a little more. Right? He’s a fantastic fellow and he really has inspired me. I wouldn't be here today if it wasn’t for him. He helped me engage with the world in a way that I couldn't previously understand. And he says, “What about the truth has helped you?,” and I always give him countless examples. And so what I want to hear from people is, on a regular basis, how the truth has helped them. We have to dismiss with the cynicism. Sincerity is the new black. So tell me, has the truth helped you? Write about this. Publish it. Tell people how it has helped you.
So when you're talking about how some information might be worth hiding, and maybe there's some times that some secrets should be kept, remember what you're saying is that someone else is more qualified to make a decision than you are. This is an extremely anti-democratic thought process, and you should reject it.
Does anyone here believe that they don't have a right to know what’s going on?
I think a lot of anti-authoritarian types like to think that speaking truth to power is good, you know - you 'stick it to the man' and you show the man how it is. Well, I think that's stupid. Power knows power. Because power's in power. So what you need to do is empower yourself."
-- A few choice quotes from Jacob Appelbaum, a WikiLeaks volunteer, in his July 17th, 2010 keynote at The Next HOPE conference. (I shot the photo above from back stage as he gave this presentation.) Download the video, and other interesting nerdy talks, here - such as Jake's talk on TOR, where he implores the audience, "You should consider using your privilege to help other people."
by Furry Girl
This afternoon, I was clogging up your Twitter feeds trying to start a conversation about a topic that has long irked me. The current iteration of my annoyance started with Sinclair Sexsmith asking people for suggestions for feminist porn for men. (Which is a totally interesting conversation in itself- one I don't think I've seen anyone else bring up before. "Smart porn" is for women, and men are tacitly dismissed as testosterone-fueled cavemen who will rub one out to anything.)
The responses to Sinclair's question were the same companies we've all heard of a thousand times. The Crash Pad Series, Madison Young, Courtney Trouble's films, Carlos Batts, Comstock Films, Tristan Taormino's work, and so on. There's this relatively short list of producers that comes up every time anyone wants to talk about "independent porn", "feminist porn", "porn for women", or "porn for couples". Now, I'm not knocking any of these companies - not one bit. They are rightfully mentioned when people talk about where to get good hot smut.
My annoyance and confusion comes from wondering why talking about "good porn" means talking about who makes good porn that is available as a feature-length physical DVD. It's this glass ceiling of sorts in the indie/alt porn world, and I can't understand why it exists. ("Glass ceiling" isn't even quite accurate- it would have cost me less money and time to make a physical DVD than produce the web content to start my latest site, so it's not a financial barrier.) While the lumbering dinosaur of the mainstream porn industry is slowly realizing that selling DVDs for $30-40 a pop is an outdated business model, the indie/alt/queer porn world is still in love with the format.
Sex-positive porn fans and bloggers generally only mention quality content that's available as feature-length DVDs, skipping over the vast plethora of independent porn that's available online, which actually gives people much more bang for their buck in terms of amount of material. While a $30+ movie has 60-120 minutes of action, a subscription to an established adult site would have much more video content, plus photography, writing, and in many cases, interactions with performers. And, more material keeps getting added- it's an evolving and dynamic piece of work. Plus, you can usually download all the web content and keep it for future enjoyment- just like that porn DVD. (Of course, I'm totally bias here, because I've been producing web porn for over 7 years, so I obviously like the format both as a creator and a consumer.)
I'm genuinely curious, why is good porn only worth mentioning - in 2010 - if it comes as a physical product in the mail? While tech-forward people increasingly shun CDs and DVDs and store all their media on hard drives (or just use Netflix/Hulu streaming), why is indie porn still about the DVD? Why is what I do any less real/interesting than if I burned it onto a shiny round disc and put it in a plastic box? Even the mainstream jizz biz seems to be slowly starting to offer scenes on demand and instantly viewable online.
Asking on Twitter, two women suggested the love affair with the DVD is because they're easier to pirate, but I don't think that's the case. Maybe with mainstream porn, but I think that fans of indie/alt/queer porn are much happier to support their favorite directors and performers by purchasing our work. Plus, a scan of The Pirate Bay doesn't seem to suggest indie porn is massively pirated. See here, here, here, or here, or here. So, maybe people have made copies for their friends, but people certainly aren't able to just go easily download something they've heard about rather than pay for it.
Another person suggested bloggers and web folk talk about DVDs because there's more money to be made selling them through affiliate links. I can't believe that one is true, either. Standard DVD/physical product commissions (such as what I get linking to Babeland) is 20%. Standard porn site commission for affiliates is 50%. So, if I sell a $30 porn DVD through a link from my site, I make $6, but on a $20 porn site membership, I get $10. Plus, if that person stays a member of the porn site, I keep getting $10 every month. So, it couldn't be that people talk up DVDs because there's more cash it for them.
So, tell me, internet, why do you usually only talk about feature-length physical DVDs when you talk about quality independent porn?
Note: none of this is to say that DVDs and feature-length porn movies are bad, just that I think they get a massively imbalanced amount of attention compared to web porn.
PS: Hugs and kisses to my sister/fellow independent/alt/amateur web smut conspirators, like Cyber-Dyke, Tasty Trixie, Seska, Joy of Spex, Hippie Goddess, Burning Angel, Bella Vendetta, Anna the Nerd, Adorable Audrey, AmberLily, Fuck for Forest, Masturbation Impossible, and DeliaTS. (Apologies to everyone I'm forgetting at the moment.)
by Furry Girl
I was recently in the Bay Area for two noble purposes: shooting strapon porn and attending the third Arse Elektronika conference. And, somewhere in-between, accomplishing plenty of eating, drinking, and socializing with many of my favorite nerdverts.
On the porn end of things, I got a lot done. I shot my first five models for Cocksexual.com, including this lovely lady:
There was much cuteness to be had, as well as hot cocksucking, fucking, drag and gender play, jerking off, and a certain amazing woman who can suck her own dick. (You'll have to wait until February 2010 to see who!)
I also had a great time at Arse Elektronika. Here's Annalee Newitz (currently of io9.com fame) presenting her talk on the history and future of love, with potential scenarios for how we might be having relationships 300 years from now.
Thank you to all of the awesome people with whom I had a chance to re-connect or meet for the first time! It would take me too long to list you all, but know that you're still my beautiful and unique snowflakes (of frozen sexual secretions).
One of the themes of conversation for the weekend was how We (in the most royal and vague sense) would like to live in a world where They accept our kinks, geekery, genders, and modes of sexual expression. While I was in that frame of mind for the conference, many San Franciscans were spending their Saturday having a daytime rave. The BART into the city was besieged by young people in their best "freak" outfits comprised of shiny/neon things from American Apparel. They were there to have fun and play weirdo dress-up for a day, and then go back to being frat boys and Forever 21 clerks or whatever it is that normal young people do.
It was a contrast that highlighted an important social division for me. Some of us try to de-stigmatize our communities, while others work to stigmatize themselves (in shallow, temporary ways). It's interesting to observe which subcultures revolve around which approach.
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