by Furry Girl
02.25.11
"It shouldn't be a surprise that more groups than just global warming and evolution deniers use this strategy of designing bad studies and legislating from them. They might be the best known, however, because their motivations are so easily understood. They're downright transparent. A few scattered cranks (there are always stray cranks) aside, the political forces behind evolution denial are religious. Those behind global warming denial represent economic interests that are threatened by our need to reduce our reliance on fossil fuels. These groups are easy to spot because we understand their motivations for winnowing information down to only what they want to believe.
There are topics, however, where the deniers are less obvious, even when they engage in similar tactics. Their motivations are subtle or complex, or they form unlikely coalitions, bound together only by their views on a single subject. The strict marginalization of sex-oriented businesses is one of those topics. It unites pro-business conservatives who are appalled by sex and pro-sex liberals who consider profit equal to exploitation, plus a lot of people whose reasons are as varied as their sexual interests.
Whatever their motivation, those who argue that the presence of adult businesses has a detrimental effect on crime rates and property values are still engaging in the same kind of denialism. They're relying on just a small portion of the available information to make their case."
-- Stephanie Zvan, in Sex, Science, and Social Policy on almostdiamonds.blogspot.com
by Furry Girl
02.21.11
"Then I became a sex worker. A new identity took over the old one. Another wave of liberation washed over me the first time I danced topless around a pole at the Gold Club in San Francisco in 1999. Hours before my audition, I plucked out my armpit hair and pulled out the most femme dress I owned, a not so shapely silver rectangle with straps that nevertheless got me my first job in the industry. Within a week, I had rediscovered all kinds of long repressed gender specific elements that my newly acquired income was now allowing me access to. [...] I became a high femme in no time. I had always had an eye for clothes and fashion, but had been rejecting notions of constructed femininity for the last two years, wearing mostly men’s clothes and nothing on my face but lip liner pencil which I used to both line and shade my lips. I was a heterosexually identified femme in high school but started to morph into something more androgynous because it seemed to me that femininity did not and could not equal power in a man’s world. Suddenly, as a new stripper, femininity now equaled power and money. I became even stronger and more confident. The color pink represented this new found power to me and it has been my favorite color ever since."
-- Mariko Passion, in Professional Bisexual on marikopassion.wordpress.com
by Furry Girl
01.24.11
"I don't know to what we owe this phenomenon – the way well-intentioned folks so readily swallow the sordid storytelling and swollen numbers – never questioning their validity, never asking any questions of the purveyors of these second-hand 'facts'. Why do we want to believe this? Why do we always want to believe in the plundering of innocents, the pimp-daddy in the bushes, the young body broken and worn out by repeated bouts of unwanted intercourse?"
-- Juliana Piccillo, in Change.org has changed…to certifiably insane on julianapiccillo.wordpress.com
I expressed similar thoughts a while ago in this post of mine: Degrading, violent desires
by Furry Girl
01.12.11
"We are in a recession. It's not pretty out there. Everyone is counting their change, updating their resume, taking out a second mortgage, moving back into an apartment, moving back home, taking on an extra job, cursing the banks and wall street. I don't have to tell you this. Floating above our heads is that magical phrase, 'sex sells.' It's a post-it note permanently attached to our frontal lobes. I think it's a troublesome phrase if not an outright lie and I blame this prevailing notion as the main reason people still believe that sex work is illegitimate. It's because we've all been told time and time again that it's easy. It's the old reliable thing to fall back on that requires little to no thought or effort. If you can't think of something creative, just throw a pair of tits there. It will sell. When sex is on the table we are helpless to resist and we will open our wallets like hypnotized monkeys. We hate sex workers because we think they cheated. We can't precisely name what it is they are cheating, exactly, but we don't like it one bit. We 'work' for our money, then there they are on their backs.
But an increasing number of people hear that message and rather than getting into an upset huff decide that if you can’t beat them, join them. The problem is, this thought emerges from the same place. People get into the sex industry and assume it’s all going to be easy."
-- Miss Maggie Mayhem, in Changes to the World of Porn on missmaggiemayhem.com
by Furry Girl
01.06.11
"By the time I began stripping, I knew what a sex worker activist was: a lesbian vegan living in San Francisco who didn’t shave (let alone wax) and was often very overweight. She had a useless degree in philosophy or women’s studies from Berkeley (unlike my highly-useful photography degree!). Sex worker activists were overly-represented in my readings about sex work and they never, ever described me or any other strippers that I knew. I remember emailing Jill Nagle and complaining that Whores and Other Feminists was not representative of all sex workers, I wanted stories from sex workers who looked and sounded like me and my co-workers, workers who walked in our shoes too. I never heard back from her.
Maybe because I and the sex workers I knew looked mainstream. [...] Everything I read told me activists discounted you if you looked mainstream sexy, as though they believed a sex worker with implants or blonde hair has nothing of value to add (just like everyone else in society)."
-- Amanda Brooks, in the invisible majority and the pc exclusion factor on texasgoldengirl.com
I've quoted folk on this general topic before, as it's a big irritation for me, even though I'm in a not-"alt"-or-mainstream limbo so far as my own appearance goes. Superficiality is a major problem with how lefty/liberal people discuss ethics and sex work, especially porn. If the performers are plus-sized and/or have tattoos and/or blue hair, it's just assumed that the porn was created under ethical conditions by empowered and happy people - whereas porn featuring blonde, thin, mainstream-sexy women is dismissed as probably created under oppressive conditions. No feminist punk rock slut could ever let her badass self get taken advantage of by evil men, but those plastic bimbo Barbie girls must have been pressured into sex work by their coke head boyfriends, right?
by Furry Girl
12.27.10
"I am probably blessed with a mild form of bipolarism. I don’t really get clinically depressed. I don’t stay in bed for weeks, nor do I contemplate suicide. But I do have my ups and downs and around 2005 this came together with my mid-life crisis and I was mighty grumpy and pissed off. Sure there were personal factors, but the situation in the Netherlands and the world was part of the problem. This did get to a point where more and more people were telling me to see a doctor. They told me: 'There are pills to make you happy again you know…'
Now the role of depression in the individual is understood to be to force change that is painful or expensive in the short term but much needed in the long term. Reading up on the truly insane numbers of people on anti-depressants and other psychoactive pharmaceuticals in our society, I cannot help but wonder whether this 'unhappiness forces change' principles stops at the individual. Could it be that we’re prescribing anti-depressants to so many people that we are now below the threshold of relatively smart, relatively resourceful but unhappy people needed to bring change?
My sense is that this is a huge story. The story of a civilization destroying its capability to fix itself by making everyone artificially happy. This may not be our field per se, but I feel this is at least as big a story as many of the issues that this community is working on. I think in future we will see a scientific field called 'pharmacological political science'. I have a feeling that people of the future cannot really understand our time without it.
One of the positive suggestions we did offer in [my 2005 speech] 'We lost the war' was to focus on battles that could be won. If I had I listened to all these other people around me, I would have been taking Prozac or Zoloft in 2005. My life would have been different and possibly much happier, especially in the short term. But a lot of things that happened to me since then would probably not have happened, because they involve me being angry and attempting to do something about it."
-- Rop Gonggrijp, in his keynote at the 27th Chaos Communication Congress in Berlin. This written transcript covers his work protecting privacy, exposing voting machine fraud around the world, WikiLeaks, the future, and which way forward for growing the event.
I also loved this bit: "Our leaders are reassuring us that the ship will certainly survive the growing storm. But on closer inspection they are either quietly pocketing the silverware or discreetly making their way to the lifeboats."
by Furry Girl
12.14.10
"Eva Pendleton, writing in Whores and Other Feminists, has argued that the act of charging money can be subversive because it reverses the terms under which men feel entitled to unlimited access to women’s bodies.
For many performers, their job has taught them invaluable skills about how to stand up for themselves and how to protect their rights, integrity, respect, comfort, safety, boundaries and professionalism.
Their work often gives them the vernacular and practical experience in their wider lives as women to speak up about their individual beliefs, take control of situations, and exercise increased confidence, self-esteem and bargaining power.
Certainly I think mainstream society could learn a lot from the fetish community, who has an emphasis on communication, trust, boundaries and consent that is often largely absent from other relationships and workplaces."
-- Zahra Stardust, in In defence of stripping and sex work on thescavenger.net
by Furry Girl
11.17.10
"The article accepts that 'boys will be boys' when it comes to watching porn but carefully wags its fingers at women who do or might consider watching porn. 'If you hadn't worn that skirt…' it seems to say. 'Nice girls don't go out alone on dark nights.' It is, quite literally, making the claim that if you watch those dark images that they will literally manifest themselves into your life. It's the stuff of mythology or the Twilight Zone and it is a little interesting that this quote pops up on the heels of more and more women speaking out about their interest in porn.
Threatening people with rape is a common tactic of war. It's been used in the past and in the present by those who don't concern themselves with collateral damage so long as they are able to impose their will.
It is a very, very ugly lie to tell."
-- Miss Maggie Mayhem, in Porn & Rape on missmaggiemayhem.com
by Furry Girl
11.04.10
"Many seem to have problems with me doing this job for money, and seem to think that my only motivation should be personal enjoyment. Fyi, I do like my job, most of the time. But my pay should be independent from whether or not I, at the bottom of my heart, like everything I'm doing all the time. Imagine if you went into work one day and weren't paid because someone thought you weren't enjoying it as fully as you should be!"
by Furry Girl
10.29.10
"The punk rock subculture has done a grave disservice for women; it had made us devoid of sexuality. It's not punk to be sexy. It's not punk to try to be hot, or feminine. I wore my boots, spit, burped and was donned, 'Bundy.' For the last 12 years I've been fighting my 'god given right' to be a fucking sexy bitch. It's only been within the last few years that I've been breeching this sexy tip. Recently I discovered that I had a wonderful opportunity to explore my sexy side. Every time I work it's all fake eyelashes, sexy panties, perfume and hot motherfucking outfits. I'm discovered what it means to be hot and sexy. Although I do feel fucking sexy all sweaty with a tool belt and a skill saw in my hand, this is a different kind of sexy. This is sexy to the masses. This is so completely new to me… and I love it.
My flirting has gone from a PBR belch and a coy look across the room. Fucking with my eyes, that's what I call it. It's my bread and butter. Now when I walk into a room and people stare at me, my initial thought isn't that my fly is down or that I've got a booger; it's 'maybe they think I’m attractive.' Sure I still have issues with my body, but women with body issues are like fish in a barrel. Stripping has brought me to realize that what is shown in magazines isn't what most people want.
People tell me all the time how refreshing it is to see a real woman with a real body. If I'm parading around in my skivvies, or writhing around like I’m being fucked, I can say whatever I want to, make whatever face I want to, do whatever I want to and no one cares. I'm still sexy. I'm still cool. I'm still smart. My thoughts are who I am; my body is how you see me. I will always be me, so who fucking cares if you think I'm an idiot. When I realized that, it was my own personal emotional, intellectual, psychological, spiritual revolution. The walls came down and now more than ever I am able to be me, and find out who I want to be."
-- Ananda, in "My thoughts are who I am…", reprinted from the stripper zine Swear Words by Kat on katstories.tumblr.com
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New to my blog? Some favorite posts
- "You have no right to dislike feminism after all it's done for you!"
- An argument for more sex workers to be out?
- Degrading, violent desires
- Do you have what it takes to be an empowered sex worker?
- Feminism is the shitty relationship you had in your early 20s
- How are we branding sex workers rights in the US? (Let's focus more on *worker*, less on *sex*!)
- How to do your homework on trafficking, "rescue", and the affected communities
- Loving my enemy and ineffective activism: "ally" commentary surrounding the Stop Porn Culture conference
- Musings on ethical porn and the red herrings of "feminist porn" and "violent porn"
- My call for a "working" class uprising against inaccessible discourse and the over-representation of dabblers
- Sex trafficking is the new crack: manufactured "epidemics" as political tools
- The common logical fallacies deployed by anti-sex worker activists
- Things I've gained from being a sex worker: an anti-paternalistic perspective
- Three out of four ain't bad: my thoughts on Audacia Ray's post on the dominant narratives of sex work
- Vigilantism and 'crushing bastards': in praise of anger, hatred, and taking joy in the smiting of one's enemies
- Want to play BINGO with the antis?
- Watch out for psuedoscience: my long-time nemeses of concern trolling and "teaching the controversy"
- What do I mean when I say "sex worker"? Why I'm against an overly-broad definition
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