by Furry Girl


Here's my seasonal public shout-out to the awesome people who bought me awesome gifts from my Amazon wishlist, including books written by two of my favorite Twitterfolk: @pennjillette and @evgenymorozov.  Thanks to JV, HD, MM, SB, and BJ!  (Please include your email in the "gift comments" field so I can send you a thank you email.)

My cool new books:

* The Art of War by Sun Tzu
* The Poverty of Theory and Other Essays by EP Thompson
* The Net Delusion: The Dark Side of Internet Freedom by Evgeny Morozov
* God, No!: Signs You May Already Be An Atheist and Other Magical Tales by Penn Jillette
* Working Sex: Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry edited by Annie Oakley
* The Myth of Matriarchal Prehistory: Why an Invented Past Won't Give Women a Future by Cynthia Eller

I turn 28 this month, so as always, I shamelessly encourage birthday/Festivus gifts from my wishlist on Amazon.  Click on the menu to sort by priority, as some items are higher on my list than others.  I'm currently salivating pretty heavily over the $85 Breaking Bad shoes, hint hint.

(PS: If you buy any of these books through my links, a portion of the price goes to SWAAY.)

by Furry Girl


I wanted to drop a quick public thank you for this season's awesome gifts from my Amazon wishlist.  Thank you to NT, SC & C, DG, DF, and MC.  (Three came without a gift note.  Please include your email in the "gift comments" field so I can thank you personally.)  I don't get paid for writing, so getting tokens of thanks is always flattering.  It's a nerdy economy: I create things for people to read, and am paid in books.

My cool new books:

* Vamps and Tramps by Camile Paglia (It's true, I haven't read any of her work before.  But I've been repeatedly insulted I'm like her, so maybe we'll get along.)
* Professing Feminism: Education and Indoctrination in Women's Studies by Daphne Patai and Noretta Koertge
* Challenging Authority: How Ordinary People Change America by Frances Fox Piven
* Emperors in the Jungle: The Hidden History of the US in Panama by John Lindsay-Poland
* After Subculture: Critical Studies in Contemporary Youth Culture edited by Andy Bennett and Keith Kahn-Harris
* Prostitution and Sex Work by Melissa Ditmore
* The Industrial Workers of the World: Its First 100 Years by Fred W Thompson and Jon Bekken
* Pretend We're Dead by Annalee Newitz

If you want to support my love of books and thank me for being awesome, check out my wishlist on Amazon, and click the option to sort by priority.  (Some books are high on my to-read list, others are "when I get a chance.")

by Furry Girl


Happy two year blogoversary to me!  It feels like it's been much longer.

As I did last year, here's a list of my most popular/controversial/commented-upon blog posts from the last year.  (I was going to make it top ten, but there was a tie, so it's eleven.)

* The feminist left versus Julian Assange: how a fanatical belief in every sex crime allegation hurts everyone [November 2010]
* My experience mocking TSA security theater at Seatac as a nearly-naked enfant terrible [November 2010]
* My call for a "working" class uprising against inaccessible discourse and the over-representation of dabblers [January 2011]
* I burn bridges, because baby - who needs a bridge when you can swim? [May 2010]
* The battle against paternalism: an ode to the oft-neglected option of tubal ligation [October 2010]
* Loving my enemy and ineffective activism: "ally" commentary surrounding the Stop Porn Culture conference [June 2010]
* How are we branding sex workers' rights in the US? (Let's focus more on *worker*, less on *sex*!) [April 2011]
* "The year was 2081, and everybody was finally equal": a dystopian solution to insecurities [January 2011]
* Legalization versus decriminalization: why the healthcare analogy is misapplied [January 2011]
* Vigilantism and 'crushing bastards': in praise of anger, hatred, and taking joy in the smiting of one's enemies [November 2010]
* Sex worker representation: what is the role of public storytelling? [February 2011]

What's coming up as I enter my third year of blogging and having a more visible internet presence outside of just being naked?

I'm still procrastinating on completing a book proposal, though I have at least decided on the sample chapter to lead with: how feminism has done nothing but hurt the sex workers' rights movement.  I also put off launching my sex workers' rights web site by a month (moved from May 1 to June 1), but that will be online shortly at  (Fundraiser tee shirts and stickers were orders this week!  Yay!)

With both the book project and the activist/outreach project, I face the exact same challenge.  I could write well over a book worth of material with my thoughts on sexuality, sexual politics, and sex work.  I also have tons of ideas for amazing things I'd like to see happening in the sex workers' rights scene in the US.  It's not like I'm at a loss for ideas or directions in which I could go, or subjects I could write about, or projects I could start.  My biggest challenge, as I try to maintain a healthy balance between work, political interests, and my private/friend/sex/social life, is how to limit my scope and keep things on my plate manageable.  I don't want to run myself ragged trying to do it all, I'd like to inspire other people to pick ideas up and run with them.  Hopefully, with your help, I'll be able to do just that in the coming year.

by Furry Girl


I feel like the best foodie slut in the world to have been gifted both a new deep fryer and glitter high heels in one gifting season.  Thank you to KB, GH, MF, DS, JH, and CB.  (Several items came without a sender name or email address.  Please include your email in the "gift comments" field so I can thank you personally.)  Trivia: I now own two books with praise on the cover from Ann Coulter.  I find this hilarious.

My new stuff:

* Glitter high heels (vegan glitter not from endangered unicorns, of course)
* A Presto deep fryer to replace my older one that died
* Lost season 6
* Watership Down DVD (a favorite childhood movie)
* Dead Aid: Why Aid Is Not Working and How There Is a Better Way for Africa by Dambisa Moyo
* How to Write a Book Proposal by Michael Larsen
* Collapse by Jared Diamond
* The Porning of America by Carmine Sarracino and Kevin M. Scott
* The Flipside of Feminism by Suzanne Venker and Phyllis Schlafly (I'm finally taking a proper crack at some conservative anti-feminism in this book by Phyllis Schlafly and a younger woman)
* The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes - and Why by Amanda Ripley
* Porn 101: Eroticism, Pornography, and the First Amendment
* The Best of H. P. Lovecraft: Bloodcurdling Tales of Horror and the Macabre
* Hard Core: Power, Pleasure, and the "Frenzy of the Visible" by Linda Williams
Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young
* Mr X by Peter Straub and Riddley Walker by Russell Hoban (these weren't on my wishlist, but are from a viewer who thinks I'd enjoy them.)

If you want to thank me for bringing you the best in anti-feminist sex worker rantings, presents are always a delightful way of doing that.  Visit my wishlist on Amazon, and click the option to sort by priority.  (Some books are high on my to-read list, others are more "when I get a chance.")

by Furry Girl


I really won this holiday season.  Between it being my 27th birthday, Christmas, and having disrobed in an airport, I was awarded a nice pile of presents.  Thank you to J, R, T, S, E, Sequoia, JC, RL, and JS.  One of the items came without a receipt, so I don't know who to thank.  (Please include your email address in the "gift comments" field so I can email you personally.)  I shot a photo of my goodies splayed out in my office area before a recent shoot. Damn, my desk looks so clean when I take most of the stuff off it and just put up some books!

My new books:

* The Elements of Style by William Strunk, Jr.
* Revolution for the Hell of It by Abbie Hoffman
* Tea Time with Terrorists: A Motorcycle Journey Into the Heart of Sri Lanka's Civil War by Mark Stephen Meadows
* How to be Invisible: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Personal Privacy, Your Assets, and Your Life by J.J. Luna  (This came highly recommend by Amanda Brooks during our privacy panel at the Desiree Alliance conference.)
* Under the Banner of Heaven: A Story of Violent Faith by Jon Krakauer
* The Other Side of Desire: Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing by Daniel Bergner
* The History of Sexuality, Volume 2: The Use of Pleasure by Michel Foucault
* Ain't Nobody's Business If You Do: The Absurdity of Consensual Crimes in Our Free Country by Peter McWilliams
* Six Easy Pieces: Essentials of Physics Explains By Its Most Brilliant Teacher by Richard Feynman
* Frozen Earth: The Once and Future Story of the Ice Ages by Doug Macdougall
* Where There is No Doctor: A Village Healthcare Handbook by David Werner  (The cool part of this is that the sender used it in the 1980s while wandering from Namibia to Kenya, and said it really is an ace book on DIY medicine.)

Plus, those pretty rain boots I'm wearing.

If you want to pay tribute to me for being a pernicious cunt, books are always a delightful way of doing that.  Visit my wishlist on Amazon, and click the option to sort by priority.

by Furry Girl


Something happened at the end of 2010.  I finally became Andy Warhol.

"Don't pay any attention to what they write about you.  Just measure it in inches." -- Andy Warhol

Just kidding.  I don't think I'm that famous.  (And unlike him, not one feminist has actually tried to murder me yet.)

But, I've finally hit that point - sparked by a frothy mixture of more people talking about me, and more letting go of keeping up with haters - where I'm not even trying to read everything people say about me any more.  Google Alerts for my name and my blog are only glanced at, not read in their entirety, and certainly not used as motivation to jump into fights with people on the internet about whether or not I am an asshole.  (I already know I'm an asshole.  I just happen to be an asshole who's correct most of the time, like all the best villains of fiction.)

Haters are so funny.  I'll never get over the hilarity of how verbose and devoted people get when obsessively, repeatedly explaining to me how "boring" or "unimportant" they find me, and I've attracted heaps of those detractors-cum-fans in the last six weeks between two popularity spikes.  (Although, an all-time favorite insult was from two or three years ago, when a Republican pornographer launched her triumphant fuck-you at me on a forum.  She revealed that she found me so extremely boring that she even wrote a whole blog entry about how boring I am.  Yeah, uh... you sure showed me!)  It's like being in kingergarten and knowing who secretly likes you based on who bothers to throw dirt at you, except now, the dirtiest dirt to be thrown is accusations of having bored the hater.  Let the record reflect that I'm not the one who's hounding my political opposites, following them around the internet in the excited hopes that maybe they'll pay attention to me.  I stay in my own virtual house for the most part - something of an internet cat lady shut-in, I suppose.  I hardly even comment on my friends' blogs (sorry!), let alone spend my life seeking out blogs of strangers I can dislike so I can self-righteously lecture them about exactly why I dislike them.  What a bizarre and neurotic thing to do!

Those two popularity spikes I mentioned were my pantless TSA protest (almost half a million views on the video!) and my Assange rape skepticism post (mostly wigged out about by feminists).

No one whose opinion I care about has attacked me, but I did earn praise from three people I admire.  Penn Jillette called me a hero on Twitter for my TSA protest, Dan Savage quoted my thoughts on rape in a post titled "What She Said,", and Laura Agustín commented in support of my rape piece.  I'm going to cherry pick and say I got all the external validation I could want between those three.  And, of course, there was a torrent of people commenting all around the web about how I'm a monster who's basically responsible for everything bad that's ever happened to anyone.  It's pretty rad that I somehow manage to simultaneously be the most insignificant yawn-fest people have ever deigned to notice, and also powerful enough to be personally responsible for stuff like "rape culture" and terrorist airplane hijackings.  I'm an enigma like that.

A couple of months ago, I received an unsolicited email from a literary agent asking me if I had a book proposal she could check out.  Seeing as how getting my shit together and writing a sample chapter and proper proposal was already on my "things to do in the near-ish future" list, it was very flattering to have someone express interest without me even trying.  And, maybe it will go no where and no publisher will want to print anything I say - I'm not going to get over-excited.  (I have a major loathing of how commonly people brag about how they're "writing a book," like just saying it out loud means you're halfway to winning a Nobel Prize.  Ain't nothing special about writing a book, kids - you don't get any bragging rights until all those words are, you know, being purchased in stores in book format.)  Even with that cynicism in mind, I'm flattered by the interest.  I wonder, snidely, how often literary agents track down blog comment trolls to say things like, "Your scathing paragraph of how [so-and-so] is ugly and stupid was absolutely brilliant!  Please send me a book proposal and sample chapter as soon as you have one.  You have a unique voice!"

(Seriously - has anyone ever gotten a book deal based on their "work" as a commenter on blogs?  Has anyone ever parlayed posting comments on other people's web sites into anything substantive or memorable?)

by Furry Girl


If I get presents sometimes, am I allowed to think of my blog as a paid gig yet?  A poorly paid gig - like begging for spare change - but hey, it's awesome to get things in my mail drop.  Thank you to the people who sent my latest cool new things: G, N, T, and A.  One of them came without a receipt/note, so I'm sorry for the person I'm missing.  (Feel free to utilize the "leave a gift message" option so you can tell me your email and I can thank you individually.)  The cool things I received:

* A mini cupcake pan by Calphalon.

* An animal cookie cutter set which includes a snail, hedgehog, moose, fox, bear, and a squirrel.  Snail cookies!

* Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.

* Lonely Planet Australia.  (I was originally planning to go to Australia for this winter's vacation, but I'm going to Sri Lanka instead.  I will go to Australia next year, though.  I need my All Seven Continents merit badge.)

* Opening Up by Tristan Taormino

* Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein.  (The sender bought me two of these without instructions on what to do with the second copy.  I gave the extra to a trans friend of mine.)

My 27th birthday is coming up next month, and as always, I love gifts!  I have a wishlist on Amazon that's handy-dandy for browsing things I want, and they ship those items directly to me.  It's so easy to use, you really have no excuse for not buying me stuff.  My top two at the moment are the first couple of books listed in chronological order of being added, which are about Sri Lanka.

by Furry Girl


I felt like doing a light-hearted blog.  And, that 5% of me that's girlie needed to start a Tumblr.

Go take a gander (and submit photos!) at

I'm a huge fan of food and sex workers, and I think this will make for a nice distraction that satisfies my interest in both, while working towards the political aim of humanizing us.

by Furry Girl


In the last month or so, I've done some none-too-subtle waving and pointing at my Amazon wishlist.  Hey, if I had any sense of shame, do you think I'd be where I am today?  I am a defective human being in that I seem to lack both the "fear of 'authority'" and "shame" centers of my brain, which seem to be the driving forces behind all-too-many people's decisions.

So, I wanted to give a public thanks to the several lovely people who sent me some cool books.  It's nice to feel appreciated for the energy I put into my writing and being a naked chick on the internet.  I've received:

* The History of Sexuality Volume One by Michel Foucault

* A Woman Speaks: The Lectures, Seminars and Interviews of Anais Nin

* Dada and Surrealism: A Very Short Introduction by David Hopkins

* The Baba and the Comrade: Gender and Politics in Revolutionary Russia by Elizabeth A Wood.  (This came without contact info from the gifter, sorry I can't email you personally to say thanks!)

* Planet Ice: A Climate for Change by James Martin

* Rebel Lives: Albert Einstein edited by Jim Green. (This also came without contact info from the gifter.)

by Furry Girl


I was christened into the jizz biz in May of 2002, at 18, with a day of shooting softcore porn in LA.  (I wish I could remember the exact date.)  I opened the doors of my first porn venture in January of 2003, at 19, and over the next few years years, gradually moved away from socializing in forums for amateur pornographers, and towards more politicized and woman-friendly spaces.  So, while I didn't start my own blog until last year, I lurked, I read, I occasionally commented where The Smart People were.  These bloggers I followed were "my people".  At last!

The amateur porn scene contains a lot of conservative swingers - a subset of which I once heard candidly (or drunkenly?) described as a bunch of ignorant hicks who "very accidentally got rich" by profiting off their wives.  Not all of them, of course - I admire many of the pioneering porn amateurs like Jen N Dave for seizing the day and starting the very first adult sites 15 years ago while the big porn companies were still mailing out wank material on VHS tapes.  (And, as far as I know, Kat Vixen was the first porn site with a leading lady who declared herself a feminist in her bio page, probably before most of today's renowned feminist pornographers could even legally appear in a porn.)

So, to hell with fighting with Fox News-loving people on adult webmaster boards, and desperately trying to connect with like-minded people - I was going to start a blog!

One of the things I knew about getting into blogging was that it would mean I would undoubtably have falling outs with other bloggers.  It's hard-coded into the sex blogger community to have epic public drama with one another - drama that can dangerously bubble over into the offline world.  After having circulated a bit in the sex worker and sex blogger scene, both online and offline at a few events, I felt reasonably liked by pretty much everyone, or at least tolerated.  I liked most of the people I met, too.  I was aware that I had some significant ideological/political clashes with some of them, but they weren't aware they had those clashes with me, so we could all share a meal together in peace.  I knew that peace would end if I started blogging my thoughts about things - most specifically, about feminism - and was sad to acknowledge that some of these people I'd happily guzzled pitchers of booze with would some day be people with whom I'd have dramatic clashes.

Such is the price you pay for telling the world what you really think about everything.  I've been accused by many of having "no filter" and needing to learn how to be fake-polite in the interest of facilitating smooth social interactions with assholes I want nothing to do with.  (Why I would want to do that is beyond me.)  I'm happy to have a career where I can pretty much disregard such advice, resting soundly in knowing that while my real self drives some people away, it also attracts more genuine friendships with the people I actually like.

So, it's with my caustic, cunty self in mind, that I introduce my ten most popular/controversial/commented-upon blog posts from the last year.  (Topping the list with the most divisive thing I'll probably ever utter in the American sex worker scene.  I don't regret a thing I said, but I don't want to keep re-hashing it either, so I'm listing it for completeness rather than a desire to re-open the fight.)

* Speaking of faux ho bloggers, what about Amber Rhea? [December 2009]

* I want to read a book written by someone like me, except smarter and better at writing [April 2010]

* Want to play BINGO with the antis? [February 2010]

* Three out of four ain't bad: my thoughts on Audacia Ray's post on the dominant narratives of sex work [April 2010]

* Does everyone actually want to be an escort, given the right circumstances? [April 2010]

* What's so "feminist" about being anti-sex? The 2010 Feminist Porn Award nominees and the "porn for women" niche [March 2010]

* Religions on sexuality: same-same, but different (the Dalai Lama and Buddhism edition) [February 2010]

* Biography of a pornographic polemic [May 2009]

* Daddy's little capitalist [October 2009]

* Somewhat disjointed grievances on porno pay rates, transparency, and a pinch of boring labor politics [September 2009]

Some of these don't develop fully unless you read all the comments.  If you have something to say about any of these past topics, please comment in those post's own comments area, not here on this post.

As for what's coming next, I'm currently interviewing a bunch of my favorite indie pornographers for what I think is an important piece about the realities of queer/feminist/"different" porn.  It's been floating around in my head for a while, but I want to devote a big blog post to screaming at a certain elephant in the room.

I've kept up the habit of posting around something once a week, which I hope to stick with as I enter year two.  We'll see how things go.  Writing, for me, is a time-consuming project with almost no financial rewards.  It would be nice to be able to change that, because it is something I enjoy.

As always, if you want to properly congratulate me on how awesome my blog is and how brilliant I am, I will continue to shamelessly solicit gifts from my Amazon wishlist.  (Sort the list by priority to see what I want most.)  If you hate me and all that I stand for, you should apologize for such insolence by donating money to my favorite charity, San Francisco's St. James Infirmary, a clinic that serves sex workers.  Either way, I win!  Mwahaha!

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