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	<description>I&#039;m a pornographer, sex worker, atheist, and former &#34;sex-positive feminist&#34; who grew tired of trying to shoehorn my reality into a useless feminist analysis.  I blog my observations as a politically-minded smut peddler, ethical slut, and staunch skeptic.  I despise people who project their insecurities onto others, or force sex workers into only two roles: helpless victims and evil patriarchy-colluders.  If I ever found a nonprofit, it will be called Start Porn Culture and I will go under the alias Gail Vagines.  My activist philosophy is informed primarily by Patrick Swayze&#039;s character in Roadhouse: &#34;I want you to be nice until it&#039;s time to not be nice.&#34;</description>
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		<title>Quote: Dan Savage on straight women and porn</title>
		<description><![CDATA["I realize, of course, that not all straight women have a problem with porn. There are lots of straight women out there who watch porn and enjoy it—your letters have been received!—and lots of straight women who don't enjoy porn but don't object to their partners watching a little porn. But of the people who [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-dan-savage-on-straight-women-and-porn/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Susan Stryker on privilege in early US trans rights activism</title>
		<description><![CDATA["The membership restrictions of [The Foundation for Personality Expression], and the form and the content of its meetings, demonstrate a familiar pattern in minority identity politics in US history- it is often the most privileged elements of a population affected by a particular civil injustice or social oppression who have the opportunity to organize first. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-susan-stryker-on-privilege-in-early-us-trans-rights-activism/</link>
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		<title>Recommended watching: Steve Rambam&#039;s &quot;Privacy Is Dead- Get Over It&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[At last month's Desiree Alliance conference, I recommended a talk called "Privacy Is Dead- Get Over It", by private investigator Steve Rambam.  He has been giving versions of this talk for years, and this latest version was given at The Next HOPE in New York City in July 2010.  It's not at all geared towards [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/recommended-watching-steve-rambams-privacy-is-dead-get-over-it/</link>
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		<title>&quot;Multiple axes of freakdom&quot;: the Desiree Alliance conference and some thoughts on sex workers and relationships</title>
		<description><![CDATA[[The title for this post is a quote from Lee Harrington, from the amazing relationship roundtable titled "Your Girlfriend SUCKS!... for Money!"  The context of his quote was among commentary on those of us with the overlapping traits of being sex workers, kinksters, and polyamorous/non-monogamous.] It's no secret that my spring was really shitty.  I [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/multiple-axes-of-freakdom-the-desiree-alliance-conference-and-some-thoughts-on-sex-workers-and-relationships/</link>
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		<title>Branching out in porno land: I&#039;m now on I Shot Myself</title>
		<description><![CDATA[It's been a while, but I've added a new site to my small collection of places where I appear naked online: I Shot Myself.  I shot the photos in June while I was in Mexico, and I'm very happy with how the they turned out. I Shot Myself is definitely one of the adult companies I'd [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/branching-out-in-porno-land-im-now-on-i-shot-myself/</link>
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		<title>Dylan Ryan on being non-normative</title>
		<description><![CDATA["In wanting the world to understand me, so too do I strive to communicate in a way that is understandable.  Such is the beauty and the pain that is felt by anyone who belongs to a 'non-normative' community, we want to be who we are but we don’t want to be not normal forever so [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/dylan-ryan-on-being-non-normative/</link>
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		<title>Vegas: a quick photoblog</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I'm still on the road this week, but I wanted to post a quick "I'm still alive" in the wake of the amazing Desiree Alliance conference last week.  I'll have a proper blog post on the conference shortly, but I thought I'd share a few photos in the mean time. Myself and Larry Flynt's gold [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/vegas-a-quick-photoblog/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Jacob Appelbaum on WikiLeaks and the importance of truth</title>
		<description><![CDATA["So, I want to quote from one of my personal heroes.  I was going to give you a quote from my friend Daniel Ellsberg, but I think that Moxie Marlinspike fits with this crowd a little more.  Right?  He’s a fantastic fellow and he really has inspired me.  I wouldn't be here today if it [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-jacob-appelbaum-on-wikileaks-and-the-importance-of-truth/</link>
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		<title>Memories: porning my way through Antarctica</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I sometimes worry that I come across online as a mean and spiteful person.  This is an inaccurate picture of me, but it's my own fault for not creating enough filler content about myself.  The thing is, I simply don't feel moved to write an impassioned treatise about a great marinara sauce I made, or [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/memories-porning-my-way-through-antarctica/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Belle de Jour on the acceptable type of feminist sex workers</title>
		<description><![CDATA["I had but one interest in writing, and it may surprise you to know, it wasn't turning out a book.  I wanted a column.  A big, glossy, Sunday-magazine column in a reputable broadsheet.  I was going to be the girl Millington.  And possibly even start dating a German and dye my hair fuschia as well. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-belle-de-jour-on-the-acceptable-type-of-feminist-sex-workers/</link>
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		<title>Note to clients: please, PLEASE give us some feedback so we have something to work with!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[During the last week, I decided to spend a good chunk of time camming again.  It's something I don't do a lot, but figured I'd give it an honest go for a week and see how the market is doing right now.  I spent 28 hours working, and made more money than I expected.  I [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/note-to-clients-please-please-give-us-some-feedback-so-we-have-something-to-work-with/</link>
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		<title>Upcoming: the Desiree Alliance 2010 Conference</title>
		<description><![CDATA[We're less than a month away from the 2010 Desiree Alliance conference, which takes place in Las Vegas from July 25th to 30th, so it's high time for me to tell you why you ought to be attending.  If you're a sex worker, curious about getting into sex work, or a genuine ally, it's the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/upcoming-the-desiree-alliance-2010-conference/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Indian sex worker&#039;s rights activist Meenu Seshu on &quot;rescue&quot; raids</title>
		<description><![CDATA["See, the problem with raids is that you have the people who want to rescue women and children who are in prostitution, using the oppressive arms of the state - the most oppressive arm of the state, which is the police - to conduct this 'rescue operation' through a raid.  [...]  The community is never [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-indian-sex-workers-rights-activist-meenu-seshu-on-rescue-raids/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Amanda Brooks on class and working in a Nevada brothel</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Monday and Tuesday were extremely slow.  Not only did the bell not ring a lot (I spent most of my time napping or doing my day job), but I wasn't closing the deal.  Too many Larry the Cable Guy truck-drivers who wanted the world for $100, ideally $20 if they could get it that cheap. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-amanda-brooks-on-class-and-working-in-a-nevada-brothel/</link>
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		<title>Watch out for psuedoscience: my long-time nemeses of concern trolling and &quot;teaching the controversy&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A little background: I grew up as the freakish nonreligious kid in a conservative part of the country.  I'm not one of those people who was raised in a big liberal city or whose parents taught them college-level concepts before the other kids could even read.  I grew up around people who told me that [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/watch-out-for-psuedoscience-my-long-time-nemeses-of-concern-trolling-and-teaching-the-controversy/</link>
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		<title>Musings on ethical porn and the red herrings of &quot;feminist porn&quot; and &quot;violent porn&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[As the dust settles a bit in the wake of all the discussion about Stop Porn Culture, many bloggers are still trickling forth with their own "and this is what all sides keep missing in their posts about the matter" posts.  It's good to see the discussion keep going, and I'll be the latest to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/musings-on-ethical-porn-feminist-porn-and-the-red-herring-of-violent-porn/</link>
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		<title>An argument for more sex workers to be out?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I've long contended that one of the best "quiet acts" of sex worker's rights activism is for us to be out of the closet in our "real life" friendships and interactions.  I think it's a very powerful statement in and of itself, without even delving into complex politics with people.  I realize that it's not [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/an-argument-for-more-sex-workers-to-be-out/</link>
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		<title>Loving my enemy and ineffective activism: &quot;ally&quot; commentary surrounding the Stop Porn Culture conference</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Last weekend, a conference took place in Boston for an organization called Stop Porn Culture.  Homely academics and anti-sex worker activists gathered to express their latest justifications to one another about why they're afraid of kinky sex and jealous of women who attract the male gaze - er, I mean, why they're against pornography. Three sex [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/loving-my-enemy-and-ineffective-activism-ally-commentary-surrounding-the-stop-porn-culture-conference/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Gavin de Becker on gender roles determining &quot;romance&quot; or &quot;stalking&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA["My generation saw in The Graduate that there is one romantic strategy to use above all others: persistence.  This same strategy is at the core of every stalking case.  Men pursuing unlikely or inappropriate relationships with women and getting them in a common theme promoted in our culture.  Just recall Flashdance, Tootsie, The Heartbreak Kid, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-gavin-de-becker-on-gender-roles-determining-romance-or-stalking/</link>
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		<title>Sex workers are good at everything except selecting mates</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Wait - didn't he know what you did for a living before hooking up with you?" That's the confused, am-I-missing-something-here question almost everyone has interrupted me to ask as I explained the first of my two nasty splits from the last two months. The answer is that yes, he knew exactly what I do.  He knew [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/sex-workers-are-good-at-everything-except-selecting-mates/</link>
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		<title>&quot;This is one day&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[One of my favorite musical groups is VNV Nation.  As a fan of industrial, synthpop, electronica, and "goth" music of its many niche labels I can't keep track of because I'm not cool, one thing I love about VNV Nation is that its lyrics can be quite supportive and positive for "goth music".  As much as [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/this-is-one-day/</link>
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		<title>Thank you to readers who sent gifts!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In the last month or so, I've done some none-too-subtle waving and pointing at my Amazon wishlist.  Hey, if I had any sense of shame, do you think I'd be where I am today?  I am a defective human being in that I seem to lack both the "fear of 'authority'" and "shame" centers of [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/thank-you-to-readers-who-sent-gifts/</link>
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		<title>In lighter news: an amusing juxtaposition of stock photography</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Now, I love Babeland, and I refer people there to buy anything that I don't sell myself.  I bought my first couple of sex toys at the Seattle store when I was 18, and still pick things up occasionally.  So this is in no way criticism of the company. But, in browsing some sex blogs [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/in-lighter-news-an-amusing-juxtaposition-of-stock-photography/</link>
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		<title>I burn bridges, because baby - who needs a bridge when you can swim?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Throughout my life, I have repeatedly had my beliefs and politics put to the test, which tends to end in me doing this thing that terrifies most people: bridge-burning.  Here are three of those stories - most notably, why I refused to speak at last weekend's Sex 2.0 conference due of the involvement of Carnal [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/i-burn-bridges-because-baby-who-needs-a-bridge-when-you-can-swim/</link>
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		<title>Happy first blogiversary to me!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I was christened into the jizz biz in May of 2002, at 18, with a day of shooting softcore porn in LA.  (I wish I could remember the exact date.)  I opened the doors of my first porn venture in January of 2003, at 19, and over the next few years years, gradually moved away [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/happy-first-blogiversary-to-me/</link>
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		<title>The second thing potential sex workers need to know: you need a lawyer and an accountant</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Welcome to the second installment of my series of advice that's for would-be sex workers.  (The first one is here.) I am happy to help rational, professionally-minded potential sex workers fill in some of the blanks they've missed in their own research.  (I've stopped bothering to try and hand-hold anyone through the basics they could [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/the-second-thing-potential-sex-workers-need-to-know-you-need-a-lawyer-and-an-accountant/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Roboexotica contributors on robo-slavery and the social politics of robots in society</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Assigning all the inevitable but blunt or difficult or dangerous work to robots means to keep them away from the kind of activity which is perceived as human. Faced with this state of segregation between wo/men and robots, Roboexotica is trying to get interaction with end-users back on the agenda of robotronics.  The aim is [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/roboexotica-contributors-on-robo-slavery-and-the-social-politics-of-robots-in-society/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Mel on the gender binary and how he&#039;s perceived as he transitions</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Still, it does exist, and it's going to be a very... interesting experience socially when my voice drops to some extent and I'm consistently read by strangers as male. As it is now, if I'm walking down the street near a woman who's alone, she will read me as a male and act cautious, but [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/mel-on-the-gender-binary-and-how-hes-perceived-as-he-transitions/</link>
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		<title>Three out of four ain&#039;t bad: my thoughts on Audacia Ray&#039;s post on the dominant narratives of sex work</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I've re-worked this a few times, trying to not come across bitchy and divisive, but I suspect that some will interpret it that way no matter how many times I rearrange sentences, so I've given up on fussing at it. Audacia Ray recently posted a noteworthy piece, Sex Worker Storytelling, Activism, and Dominant Narratives.  Short [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/three-out-of-four-aint-bad-my-thoughts-on-audacia-rays-post-on-the-dominant-narratives-of-sex-work/</link>
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		<title>Maybe feminist theory isn&#039;t so boring after all</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week, I asked the universe for book suggestions as I sought out secular feminist critique/anti-feminist writings.  Since then, I've spent too many hours poking around on Amazon, searching for keywords, and clicking over to more and more recommended products.  I've added some new books to my wishlist that I hadn't heard of before, as [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/maybe-feminist-theory-isnt-so-boring-after-all/</link>
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		<title>An Earth Day rant with the only &quot;eco-sex&quot; tip you actually need</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The term "eco-sexpert" has escaped into the wild, and it makes me fear for the future of civilization. Things have been changing in the last year or two.  All the decent sex shops now have a section of "earth-friendly" products - which may or may not actually be any more "natural" than their other items. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/an-earth-day-rant-with-the-only-eco-sex-tip-you-actually-need/</link>
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		<title>Does everyone actually want to be an escort, given the right circumstances?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I was lolling about in bed the other day with a naked man, and we got to talking about my long-standing lukewarm interest in escorting.  (I don't want to change careers and become an escort, I don't have the time to devote to marketing a new business, but I'd be keen on dipping my toes [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/does-everyone-actually-want-to-be-an-escort-given-the-right-circumstances/</link>
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		<title>I want to read a book written by someone like me, except smarter and better at writing</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I guess that's what everyone wants in a book, right? For most people, that's not hard to find.  Take any average computer programmer, carpenter, pastry chef, archeologist, or soldier, and there will be books from authors more skilled in their field, ready to offer philosophical insights and practical information.  I don't think there's anything like [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/i-want-to-read-a-book-written-by-someone-like-me-except-smarter-and-better-at-writing/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Dan Savage on the imbalance of public panic over rape in churches</title>
		<description><![CDATA["You know where your kids should be?  They should not be at a church youth group retreat.  They should not be in the company of anybody with a clerical collar.  Ever.  [...]  There are millions of sharks in the ocean.  Three shark attacks in Florida, and no one will go in the water.  Hundreds and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quotes-dan-savage-on-the-imbalance-of-public-panic-over-rape-in-churches/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Black Humanist Norm Allen on the good parts of religion</title>
		<description><![CDATA[DJ Grothe: "Yes, maybe Christianity was used to support the institutions of slavery, but wasn't it also really beneficial to slaves?  Or after slavery, [to] the black community in general?" Norm Allen: "Well, the way I look at it is that you can get a positive out of a negative, but that doesn't justify the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-black-humanist-norm-allen-on-the-good-parts-of-religion/</link>
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		<title>Frequently Addressed Accusation: &quot;Men who pay for sex hate women!&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Some people assume nothing but the worst about "the kind of men" who look at porn or go to strip clubs or see escorts.  (As though it's just a rare and dangerous "type", and not actually almost every breathing guy on earth.)  There's a caricature of a seedy, unwashed man* in a trenchcoat who is [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/frequently-addressed-accusation-men-who-pay-for-sex-hate-women/</link>
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		<title>Why is internet porn the unloved stepchild of the indie porn world - locked in the attic and not included in family portraits?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This afternoon, I was clogging up your Twitter feeds trying to start a conversation about a topic that has long irked me.  The current iteration of my annoyance started with Sinclair Sexsmith asking people for suggestions for feminist porn for men.  (Which is a totally interesting conversation in itself- one I don't think I've seen [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/why-is-internet-porn-the-unloved-stepchild-of-the-indie-porn-world-locked-in-the-attic-and-not-included-in-family-portraits/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Nude model Ami on her fully clothed day job</title>
		<description><![CDATA["During the day I work as a writer at a prestigious international institution. I interview diplomats and promote myself as a thought leader. I write about women’s issues, and work for the promotion of women’s empowerment. But I’m entry level so I’m not paid. [...] I worked on an article about sex work during the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-nude-model-ami-on-her-fully-clothed-day-job/</link>
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		<title>Slut-bashers all grown up, and an excerpt from Emily White&#039;s &quot;Fast Girls&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[While checking out a friend's Flickr uploads, I came across a photo that instantly took me back almost 9 years.  It was the smiling face of a girl who had once looked down her nose at me for being such a slut.  She was a technical virgin back in those days, bouncing from guy to guy [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/slut-bashers-all-grown-up-and-an-excerpt-from-emily-whites-fast-girls/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Mistress Matisse on the old fallback of Bad Childhood Experiences</title>
		<description><![CDATA["I'm always amazed that people have the courage to rear children, given that once you have them, anything people don't like about your offspring's sexuality becomes your fault. I heard a new twist on this lately: Foot and leg fetishes stem from men sitting on the floor as infants, tugging futilely at the skirts of [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-mistress-matisse-on-the-old-fallback-of-bad-childhood-experiences/</link>
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		<title>Quote: The1585 on beauty standards and romanticizing the past</title>
		<description><![CDATA["People always bring up the "good old days" of body image, and talk about curvy Vargas girls and how Marilyn Monroe was a size whatever-it-was -- but the Left-wing idea of how healthy those days were is just as much a revisionist pipe-dream as the Right-wing idea of how moral they were. First of all, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-the1585-on-beauty-standards-and-romanticizing-the-past/</link>
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		<title>What&#039;s so &quot;feminist&quot; about being anti-sex? The 2010 Feminist Porn Award nominees and the &quot;porn for women&quot; niche</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I've had a lot of smut thrust at me over the years as awful examples of "women being degraded", but none of that has ever truly pissed me off quite like ForTheGirls.com.  It's with that long-standing annoyance that I was disappointed to see that the only porn site to ever really offend me with its disgusting [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/whats-so-feminist-about-being-anti-sex-the-2010-feminist-porn-award-nominees-and-the-porn-for-women-niche/</link>
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		<title>Want to play BINGO with the antis?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[--- I recently got some feedback on my blog that read like an auto-generated essay against porn and sex work, hitting all the key arguments that I've heard a thousand times, just rearranged in a different order. It got me thinking, hasn't anyone made a bingo card about this yet?  Apparently not, so I made [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/want-to-play-bingo-with-the-antis/</link>
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		<title>Religions on sexuality: same-same, but different (the Dalai Lama and Buddhism edition)</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Today in long-standing annoyances: the left's schizophrenia about religion- namely, which beliefs are chic and which beliefs are deplorable. As a whole, lefties/liberals love to point out that they're better than those normal people and the silly dogmas of the desert religions, but often embrace their own interpretations of eastern and indigenous religions.  Lefties picket Mormon [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/religions-on-sexuality-same-same-but-different-the-dalai-lama-and-buddhism-edition/</link>
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		<title>Why I don&#039;t read anti-sex/porn books: a page from the &quot;awesome-ist&quot; manifesto</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I'm often asked if I've read popular books by certain victim feminists and anti-porn activists. "Unless you've read _____, you have no idea what you're talking about!  If only you were exposed to the correct ways of thinking, as I have been, you would understand why porn causes men to rape their children, why millions [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/why-i-dont-read-anti-sexporn-books-a-page-from-the-awesome-ist-manifesto/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Mireille Miller-Young on the sex worker angle of the Tiger Woods hysteria</title>
		<description><![CDATA["What is most shocking to people is not that a man, a ridiculously rich celebrity, cheated on his wife, it's that he had at least 13 mistresses! Two of these women were porn actresses, one of whom, Joslyn James, claims to have had a 3 year love affair with Tiger and two pregnancies. Directly after [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-mireille-miller-young-on-the-sex-worker-angle-of-the-tiger-woods-hysteria/</link>
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		<title>As Gloria Steinem said, you&#039;re either a feminist or a masochist: a belated 2009 review</title>
		<description><![CDATA[2009 was good to me.  It was the year I finally started blogging, the year I stopped giving a shit about trying to be a feminist (whatever that means), the year I bought a frosting gun for decorating cupcakes, the year I actively began shooting photos of other people, the year I discovered the joy [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/as-gloria-steinem-said-youre-either-a-feminist-or-a-masochist-a-belated-2009-review/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Annalee Newitz on the sexual politics of Battlestar Galactica</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Male Friendship Is Predicated On Violence and Drunkenness There are no long-term close relationships between women on BSG, and there is only one long-term relationship between two men. [...] It is truly hard to say which gender has it worse in this situation. Is it more awful to be a woman in a world where [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2010/quote-annalee-newitz-on-the-sexual-politics-of-battlestar-galactica/</link>
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		<title>Speaking of faux ho bloggers, what about Amber Rhea?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Merry Festivus, everyone!  It's time for the airing of grievances. For those of you just joining us, there's been a storm of controversy lately over whether or not Alexa, a prolific blogger who claims to be a high class escort, is a fake.  (See posts by Monica Shores, Jenny DeMilo, Mistress Matisse one and two, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/speaking-of-faux-ho-bloggers-what-about-amber-rhea/</link>
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		<title>The first thing potential sex workers need to know: you will be caught by someone</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I've been contacted countless times by people who want to be sex workers, and I've advised many of them against it.  Why?  Because plenty of these emailers are terrified of being discovered.  If you're already experiencing great concern over potential outings and shame, this is not a job for you to be considering.  One would [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/the-first-thing-potential-sex-workers-need-to-know/</link>
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		<title>NYC: So long, and thanks for all the dicks!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[My trip to New York City was a whirlwind of amazing, and I've barely had time to wash my clothes and read my email before I'm back to the airport tomorrow- although, this time, for a family visit. I knew I was going to visit New York this fall to shoot for Cocksexual.com, and the universe [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/nyc-so-long-and-thanks-for-all-the-dicks/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Stephen Fry on love and sexual outsiders</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Straight people are encouraged by culture and society to believe that their sexual impulses are the norm, and therefore when their affairs of the heart and loins go wrong (as they certainly will), when they are flummoxed, distraught and defeated by love, they are forced to believe that it must be their fault. We gay [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-stephen-fry-on-love-and-sexual-outsiders/</link>
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		<title>Sex work *is* work, in anecdote form</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Years ago, I was eating with a friend and a few of his enlightened lefty activist buddies. I was aware that a number of his self-righteous feminist pals had a problem with what I do, so I generally stayed away from them, choosing to socialize with my friend one-on-one, when we'd make vegan cookies and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/sex-work-is-work-in-anecdote-form/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Juliet November on ladyskills</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Work traditionally provided by women is always made natural and invisible. Everything from knowing how to care for kids and tend a garden to how to hypnotize with fabric and liquid eyeliner is seen as normal, easy and natural for us women — not hard-earned and precious." -- Juliet November, in Cunt at Rest: On [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-juliet-november-on-ladyskills/</link>
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		<title>Daddy&#039;s little capitalist</title>
		<description><![CDATA[One of the most commonly asked questions of sex workers is, "But do your parents know?!", generally spoken in a mock-concerned, barely-containing-their-excitement voice, ready to hear about my inner turmoil of how I want nothing more than to be able to make my parents proud of me, yet am burdened with the shame of being [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/daddys-little-capitalist/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Sabrina Morgan Twittering on fantasy versus fiction</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Saw an 'adult gigs' ad for actresses, unrated movie, sexual contact. Interesting stuff. I wrote my inquiry- and I think I'll decline. The premise? It's rape, of course, the only type of sex that mainstream movies care to show explicitly. The man gets caught, justice served- -but it's still rape porn, adding titillation to women's [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-sabrina-morgan-twittering-on-fantasy-versus-fiction/</link>
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		<title>Bay Area nerdvert weekend wrap-up</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I was recently in the Bay Area for two noble purposes: shooting strapon porn and attending the third Arse Elektronika conference.  And, somewhere in-between, accomplishing plenty of eating, drinking, and socializing with many of my favorite nerdverts. On the porn end of things, I got a lot done.  I shot my first five models for [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/bay-area-nerdvert-weekend-wrapup/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Robert Jay Lifton on uncomfortable people</title>
		<description><![CDATA["We spend most of our lives either seeking awareness or avoiding it, or some combination thereof. That's because there is something terrifying about absolute adherence to moral principals. A person seeking uncompromising moral consistency is uncomfortable all the time, because of threats to that consistency." -- Robert Jay Lifton, in an interview in Derrick Jensen's [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-robert-jay-lifton-on-uncomfortable-people/</link>
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		<title>Quick thoughts on my new project</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Reading model applications for Cocksexual.com makes me so happy that it's something I've finally decided to do, as well as glad to be making the kind of porn that I do. In an industry where a model applications generally just ask which holes you'll put stuff in and if you're willing to fuck a black [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quick-thoughts-on-my-new-project/</link>
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		<title>I&#039;m adding another porn site to my empire of perversions!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In the last few months, I've been thinking a lot about how, at 25, I ought to think a bit more about long-term financial planning.  I already accomplished buying my first condo, which is a great investment, but I'd like to get better at money in general.  Part of it is getting older, and part [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/im-adding-another-porn-site-to-my-empire-of-perversions/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Lily Burana on sex work activism after her own battle against stage fees</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Not everyone can tilt at windmills, and most dancers just want to make their money with as little fanfare and frustration as possible. My activist entreaty has gone from 'shake the system' to 'get educated, get solvent, get out.' I applaud any woman who attempts to right the wrongs of the adult entertainment business, but [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-lily-burana-on-sex-work-activism-after-her-own-battle-against-stage-fees/</link>
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		<title>Somewhat disjointed grievances on porno pay rates, transparency, and a pinch of boring labor politics</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I've always worked hard to operate an ethical adult business.  I'm not claiming to be perfect, but I do my best.  Which, of course, is why it's so awesome that countless people yell at me for exploiting women, causing children to be raped, destroying relationships, and generally being responsible for a hateful, sexist world full [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/somewhat-disjointed-grievances-on-porno-pay-rates-transparency-and-a-pinch-of-boring-labor-politics/</link>
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		<title>I miss you, stripper-era Diablo Cody</title>
		<description><![CDATA[It's a real shame that Diablo Cody hasn't kept her old blog online.  I realize she's a famous Oscar-winner now and has important celebrity encounters and movie openings to blog about, but her earlier work was among my favorite stuff to read when I was new to the adult industry.  I recently sought out one [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/i-miss-you-stripper-era-diablo-cody/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Juliana Piccillo on sex workers and the recession</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Sex workers may be 'in right' on major purchases and thus well-positioned to weather the storm because they typically pay cash for everything – their homes, cars and household goods. Having no W-2, 1099 gig, sex workers weren't invited to the easy-credit orgy of the last five years. 'My income was somewhat unpredictable and the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-juliana-piccillo-on-sex-workers-and-the-recession/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Calico on boundaries, kink, and feminism</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Some feminists say that sexual female submission, or violent sex, is never okay. Clearly as someone who both seeks and gives such, I don't agree. It's also been suggested that my social conditioning makes me equate violence and sex. 'Spose that's possible, but I don't like arguments that assume I am stupid and blind." -- [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-calico-on-boundaries-kink-and-feminism/</link>
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		<title>Newsflash: Running a successful business actually takes time and effort</title>
		<description><![CDATA[More than the occasional misogynistic viewers, exorbitant credit card processing fees, and normal people thinking I'm going to molest their children, I get annoyed by those who treat me as though my work could be done by a retarded monkey.  After all, if I possessed any skills, ambitions, or intelligence, I wouldn't be "selling myself", [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/newsflash-running-a-successful-business-actually-takes-time-and-effort/</link>
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		<title>Webgirl rant: Captain Dumbass versus the billionaire bimbo</title>
		<description><![CDATA[If you follow any indie pornographer blog, you'll find at least one rant about douchebaggy viewers demanding the world of them for a small subscription fee.  This is mine, in response to a post I deleted from the message board in the members area of FurryGirl.com.  (Because it's my house, folks- of course I'll eject you [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/webgirl-rant-captain-dumbass-versus-the-billionaire-bimbo/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Tracie Egan on booze and &quot;Aunt Tomming&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA["The fact that women like to knock a few back is not a pro-feminism statement. Sure, it may be a result of feminism, but not, in itself, a feminist act. (Personally, I don't drink to fight sexism. I drink to forget about it.) However, making the argument that now that women are lucky enough to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-tracie-egan-on-booze-and-aunt-tomming/</link>
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		<title>Things I&#039;ve gained from being a sex worker: an anti-paternalistic perspective</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Sex workers are one of the world's most spoken-on-behalf-of groups, which goes hand-in-hand with us being among the most reviled groups. So many people feel the right to speak on behalf of me and my experiences- generally the people furthest removed from my life and the least inclined to actually ask my opinion on the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/things-ive-gained-from-being-a-sex-worker-an-anti-paternalistic-perspective/</link>
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		<title>Finding someone you know naked on the internet: a tale of two emailers</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The other night, I received an email from a former neighbor.  I had lived next to his family in the Seattle suburbs for two years, and I shot plenty of porn in my rental house during that time.  His email was polite, complimentary of my work and blog, and respectful of my privacy.  That's how [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/finding-someone-you-know-naked-on-the-internet-a-tale-of-two-emailers/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Dan Savage on George Sodini and sexual frustration</title>
		<description><![CDATA["A woman I knew at college — an antiviolence activist, righteous and right-on — used to say, "Testosterone is gasoline, porn the match." I disagree. Testosterone is gasoline — which isn't necessarily a bad thing (gas makes things go) — but sexual frustration is the match. I'm not suggesting that this tragedy could've been averted [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-dan-savage-on-george-sodini-and-sexual-frustration/</link>
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		<title>Sex Worker Literati and gradations of grievances</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In the next few, I plan to visit New York for Audacia Ray and David Henry Sterry's new reading series, Sex Worker Literati.  In her blog post after the event, Audacia wrote, The evening also made me reflect on an annoying phrase that gets thrown at sex worker activists: “the happy hooker lobby.” In the sex [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/sex-worker-literati-and-gradations-of-grievances/</link>
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		<title>Hell hath no fury like a woman&#039;s scorn (for women)</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I recently popped my sex worker blogger cherry when I came across a feminist blog post attacking me.  Since the author of the post didn't feel the need to link to me - or even mention my pseudonym - so that her readers might be able to see what I actually do believe, I see [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/hell-hath-no-fury-like-a-womans-scorn-for-women/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Belle de Jour on why she&#039;s not a feminist</title>
		<description><![CDATA["Well, fuck you. Fuck you, who think feminism began with Germaine Greer and ended with Candace Bushnell. Fuck you, who think kissing a girl while tiddly is real transgression. Fuck you, who ridicule India Knight for dieting then go on television offering up your tits on a plate. Fuck you, for not looking in the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-belle-de-jour-on-why-shes-not-a-feminist/</link>
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		<title>Why I don&#039;t work in the mainstream porn industry</title>
		<description><![CDATA[After falling in love with free-spirited hookers from the gold rush era, I decided that porno was likely my path into the sex industry.  When I turned 18, I sought out companies that might hire me. While searching online, I came across a guy-with-camera site where the amateur models were "normal people sexy", rather than [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/why-i-dont-work-in-the-mainstream-porn-industry/</link>
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		<title>Everything you need to know about life you&#039;ve already learned from 80s movies</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Recently, I was baking vegan cupcakes and watching Real Genius.  These are the sorts of awesome things I do with my days now that I no longer waste any time trying to convince sexually frustrated leftists that feminism and sex work can coexist.  (Can they?  Who cares- let's go swimming and drink mojitos!) The movie [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/everything-you-need-to-know-about-life-youve-already-learned-from-80s-movies/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Christopher Hitchens on objectification</title>
		<description><![CDATA["It reminds me of the exasperation I used to feel, years ago, when one could be accused of regarding others as "sex objects." Well, one can only really be a proper "subject" to oneself. A sentence that begins with I will be highly solipsistic if it ends only with me, and if the subject is [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-christopher-hitchens-on-objectification/</link>
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		<title>Degrading, violent desires</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Sex workers and sluts are catnip for those who fancy themselves amateur psychologists.  "What awful things happened to her to make her turn out like that?", they wonder, disgustedly and excitedly, scratching their heads and seeking to unravel what titillating damage has been inflicted upon the presumed victim.  Apparently, one must have been raped by [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/degrading-violent-desires/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Pan Condell on history &amp; beliefs</title>
		<description><![CDATA["The past has plenty to teach us, but I don't think it should be allowed to detain us against our will." -- Pat Condell, in Why debate dogma? on youtube.com]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-pan-condell-on-history-beliefs/</link>
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		<title>Sex Worker Fest 2009 wrap-up</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Organizer Scarlot Harlot during a screening. I thought she looked lovely in this light. At the beginning of June, I spent 10 days in the Bay Area.  I was in town primarily for the 2009 Sex Worker Film Festival, but I also had a chance to go to shoot photos of Roxxie (and vice versa), [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/sex-worker-fest-2009-wrap-up/</link>
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		<title>Quote: Darklady on the adult industry</title>
		<description><![CDATA["One of the things that gives the adult entertainment business so much power over the "real" world is that it is fearless. It utters the unutterable and speaks what has been left unspoken. It names names. It avoids euphemism. It searches for frank language, and it shines light where others have insisted upon shadow, mystery, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/quote-darklady-on-the-adult-industry/</link>
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		<title>Review: The Government vs. Erotica</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The Government vs. Erotica: The Siege of Adam &#38; Eve by Philip D Harvey Published in 2001 ★★★☆ Recommended: For more serious sexuality bookworms In an alternate world, Phil Harvey would be a better-known first amendment crusader. Far from the bombastic, abrasive persona of Larry Flynt, Harvey is an adult retailer who seems like he [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/review-the-government-vs-erotica/</link>
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		<title>San Francisco Sex Worker Festival 2009</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I'll be in the Bay Area next week for the San Francisco Sex Worker Festival. Here's a summary of scheduled events, make sure to check the web site for full details. * Saturday, May 30: Radar Spectacle Benefit with Michelle Tea and more * Sunday, May 31: BelleBazaar: An Orgy of Shopping * Sunday, May [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/san-francisco-sex-worker-festival-2009/</link>
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		<title>How to not suck at interviewing me</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Like many loudmouth sluts, I am contacted by people who want to get quotes from me for their school newspaper, class assignment, or an article they're hoping to have published. The following is a guide mostly for college kids, but it also applies to freelancers and writers from small publications/web sites. It's culled from my [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/how-to-not-suck-at-interviewing-me/</link>
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		<title>&quot;Weird and Wacky&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[To prepare for a British friend coming to visit Seattle, I picked up "Weird and Wacky Washington Places" from the library to see if there's anything neat I hadn't heard of. What's weird and wacky? A banana museum, the Space Needle, Slug Fest, the Jimi Hendrix statue, and the Green River Killer, Gary Ridgeway. As [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/weird-and-wacky/</link>
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		<title>Beware of &quot;junk science&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[On a 2008 episode of the Point of Inquiry podcast, civil rights attorney Edward Tabash touched on an issue that, to me, resonated well beyond beyond the Prop 8 topic he was discussing. If people with a religious motive can appeal to bogus junk science to get around the church-state issue, then church-state separation has [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/beware-of-junk-science/</link>
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		<title>Sex 2.0 roundup: militant awesome-ism</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Conference organizer Match and I at the porn and brownies party. We're 2 of only 4 people at the conference of 166 who don't call ourselves feminists. Photo by Diva. Since the weekend in DC, I've been decompressing in a friend's place in Manhattan, objectifying his body and eating the city's most delicious vegan foods. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/sex-20-roundup-militant-awesome-ism/</link>
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		<title>I was a feminist vigilante when I was four</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Deep in the Furry Girl archives, I have a scanned bit of my early writing. Judging from the handwriting and poor spelling, I would place this as having been written at age 6 or 7 at most, reflecting on life when I was about four years old.]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/i-was-a-feminist-vigilante-when-i-was-four/</link>
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		<title>Frequently Addressed Accusation: &quot;Porn objectifies women as sex objects!&quot;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Ah, "objectification", one of those buzzwords - like "empowerment" - that I've heard so many times, it just sounds like gibberish. And really, I'm not sure if I ever knew what it was supposed to mean in the first place. This topic is one of my major headdesk issues with anti-porn crusaders. They say, "porn [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/frequently-addressed-accusation-porn-objectifies-women-as-sex-objects/</link>
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		<title>Feminism is the shitty relationship you had in your early 20s</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Feminism is the shitty relationship you had in your early 20s. The lover who was charismatic and creative and gave great handjobs, even though, in moments of clarity, you could see that the two of you had a very real potential for detesting one another some day. She was dodging a couple creditors, yes, and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/feminism-is-the-shitty-relationship-you-had-in-your-early-20s/</link>
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		<title>Will the real feminisnt please stand up?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[When I was pondering what to name my blog, I devoted several days of intense shower-thinking to the matter before settling on "Feminisnt". To me, if a feminIST means one who is a proponent of feminism, a feminISNT is one who is not, without necessarily being anti-feminist. Huzzah! Clever unique term coined! Point me! But, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/will-the-real-feminisnt-please-stand-up/</link>
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		<title>Biography of a pornographic polemic</title>
		<description><![CDATA[How did you get into porn? When I was 17, I read a book called "Good Time Girls of the Alaska-Yukon Gold Rush" by Lael Morgan, and was fascinated by the strong, feisty, independent women who left behind comfortable lives and families to become sex workers in the harsh north. I pondered my options for [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/biography-of-a-pornographic-polemic/</link>
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		<title>Introduction, or: How I learned to stop worrying and love the non</title>
		<description><![CDATA[For a long time, I resisted starting a blog. I don't want to be another node in the pink ghetto who writes my take on the story of the week in between tales of getting fucked and the latest free photo galleries from porn sites I jack off to. It's not that I think there's [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.feminisnt.com/2009/introduction-or-how-i-learned-to-stop-worrying-and-love-the-non/</link>
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