by Furry Girl

07.15.11

It's somewhat strange for me to be talking about forced trafficking so much lately, because while I do care about how anti-trafficking organizations hurt consensual adult sex workers and ignore genuine victims, and have read much more on the subject that most other people, I will be the first to tell you that I am no forced trafficking expert.  My only real blog post about trafficking is advocating that people seek out better sources for information.  After a couple of weeks of peeking at the Twitter feed of Ashton Kutcher's fans talking about trafficking, it's very clear that most people lobbing opinions on the subject (and angrily contacting their elected officials) know nothing beyond sensationalist crusades led by celebrities, covered by media outlets who gussy up the story to be as dramatic and upsetting as possible.  I might not be an expert, but I certainly have a more informed opinion than most other people publicly blathering about the subject.

I need help in creating an important resource that does not seem to exist yet.  Unlike the mainstream anti-trafficking and anti-sex work groups that view all males as probably drooling for a chance to rape a child sex slave, I want SWAAY to show real consideration and appreciation of clients who strive to be ethical.  I think the American sex workers' rights movement is missing out by neglecting to court clients as allies or consider them potential supporters.

For one, I am still still seeking short pieces of advice from current and former sex workers on how clients can be respectful and ethical towards us.  I am hugely disappointed that after a month of the site being live, not a single sex worker has submitted a suggestion for how clients can treat them better.  (Admittedly, I am limiting my scope to sex workers who have worked in the US and are willing to post a photo of themselves.  But I personally know oodles of sex workers who show their face online, and they've not shown any interest in reaching out to clients through this part of the site, despite my mentioning it regularly.)  We all tweet and blog gripes when clients do something that pisses us off or violates our boundaries, but there's almost nothing written about how to not be that douchebag who gets ranted about.  Let's do something positive and help people understand how we do want to be treated.  What seems like common sense to us can be a confusing and vague world to others.

Secondly, since I have not seen such a resource anywhere yet, I'd like to add information specifically for clients of sex workers who might be concerned about seeing an underage prostitute or someone who is being abused.  Clients are in a better position than celebrities, NGOs, and even sex workers to locate and report potential victims of exploitation.  Yet, I don't believe I've ever seen anything from the sex workers' rights movement targeted at clients to give them information about how they might attempt to identify and report suspected forced trafficking, abuse, or underage victims.  The short answer is "call the police from a payphone in an area without security cameras," but that's not good enough.

The DNA Foundation, as well as other anti-sex work anti-trafficking organizations, have their own hotline for people to call to report abuse.  (I sincerely wonder what kinds of calls those numbers get if the organizations running them train people to consider all sex workers as victims who need saving.  "Hello, Mr Kutcher!  This is Bob in San Franciso.  I wanted to report a strip club I saw, which no doubt filled with trafficked slaves.  Am I hero now?")  Does anyone on "our team" have a phone number people can call?

I do hesitate to tell people to phone the police.  What if a well-meaning client triggers a raid on an area of prostitution (like an hourly motel) and ends up just getting a lot of hard-up people arrested who are not victims?  What if the police do indeed find a 16-year-old engaging in prostitution, arrest them, and ship them back to an abusive family from which they escaped and are desperate to never see again?  There's no easy solution, especially since "rescue" means arrest first, ask questions later, and can mean sending people into more abusive situations.  (As someone who was kicked out shortly before turning 16, yet never engaged in sex work at the time, I know that I would have been fucking livid if someone had tried to "help" me by involving the police.  I might not have had a stable address and enough to eat at all times, but I vastly preferred that lifestyle to other options.)

But where do we start?  How can we genuinely work to include clients in the fight against both forced trafficking and serious abuses, as well as the inadvertent mistreatment of consensual sex workers?  What are answers that don't involve arrests and involvement of the state, which can make things worse on already disadvantaged people?  Would clients carry a business card-sized list of non-governmental shelters and support services to give to anyone they think might want to seek help?  These are the tough questions I'd like to see the sex workers' rights movement addressing.

Edited to add: a commenter pointed out this awesome-looking UK resource: Redline.  It seems to be exactly what I wish we had here in the states.





6 Comments »

  1. Apols about doing this anonymously, but I'm a client and it's pretty hard to come out on that one here.

    http://www.redlineuk.org/ is promoted by a number of brothels, and looks like a model organisation.

    Comment by Prefer to keep this slightly tricky to trace — July 15, 2011 @ 2:50 pm

  2. Could this be more general?

    Argue if you want (and I appreciate a good rebuttal), but isn't the problem with individuals treating service workers like shit?

    Yes, I understand that part of the problem is negative attitudes towards sex. That all porn workers/prostitutes/etc are , blah blah blah, and this needs to be fixed. But once we're past the big society hangup that some people might not have the same issues as other individuals about sexual services for money, we're still left with how badly society treats service workers.

    Lets fix that.

    Comment by NothingElse — July 17, 2011 @ 12:26 am

  3. Anon: Thanks for telling me about Redline, I'd never heard of that. I wish we had something like that in the states.

    NothingElse: Your comment has nothing to do with that I wrote, so I have nothing to "rebut."

    Comment by Furry Girl — July 17, 2011 @ 11:56 am

  4. I would love to contribute, but how much of my face must be shown in the picture you'd like attached?

    Comment by Jade — July 28, 2011 @ 1:56 pm

  5. sex worker here and i would participate but don't feel comfortable showing my face. i'm sure you thought long and hard about why you wanted to make that a requirement and i can think of a few arguments myself. nonetheless, i think in the end that not allowing participation for sexworkers who aren't comfortable being out on the web, limits the conversation rather drastically to a very particular few. no?
    i looked on swaay for an explanation of your reasoning on the photo requirement and couldn't find one. perhaps you could include that? i'm really quite interested and open to changing my opinion.

    Comment by story — July 29, 2011 @ 12:54 am

  6. Hi Jade and Story: I will add an explanation about why I am requiring photos to the submissions page of SWAAY in the next hour. http://www.swaay.org/submissions.html

    Comment by Furry Girl — July 29, 2011 @ 12:54 pm

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