by Furry Girl

03.18.11

Anyone else feel like this is true?  I know it's not a hard and fast rule, but god damn, does it feel like it some days!

As people who know me are aware, I'm a serious night owl, often not going to sleep until after 6 in the morning.  Getting me to wake up early for anything short of the apocalypse is a big deal.  I woke up early today to take a morning cam appointment with a nice kinky guy I spent a lot of time with on cam last week.  I told him I don't normally do camming early in the day, that I don't like mornings, but he politely begged, so I decided to make an exception for a well-paying pervert who is into things I genuinely like.  What happened?  5 minutes before our scheduled appointment, he emailed to let me know he's busy but will try to be able to see me later some time.

I once had another kinky guy who was a great client when I could catch him (he even once flew me to his city for an in-person fetish session), but he was such a monumentally irritating flake and time-waster, I stopped even trying.  It wasn't worth all the following up with him to get the money.  (I spoke to another sex worker who'd had the exact same experience with him.  Maybe his real kink was getting us to chase him?)

I have many other examples of guys who popped in on cam, spent a bunch of money, bought me gifts, had truly fun shows with me, the promised me the world, and then disappeared.  If you don't want to see me again, I get it - variety is the spice of life - but don't make a an appointment in the morning after I told you I don't like doing that and then blow me off after I dragged myself out of bed for you.

Time-wasting on the part of clients is one of the top sex worker pet peeves.  If you're one of my readers who's a client/customer, please don't pull this shit on us.  If you wouldn't stand up your accountant, your lawyer, your doctor, your boss, or your wife, don't do it to sex workers.

Arg.  Getting only a few hours of sleep basically ruins my whole day, and I don't even have anything to show for it.  Maybe I'll go and see if I can fall asleep again, otherwise I won't make it past 8pm or so, when the real cam show clients start showing up.

For more sex worker infographics, see: Calico's stripping graph, Miss Maggie Mayhem's anti-porn flowchart, Kat's strippers-who-insist-they're-not-sex-workers flow chart, and my own anti-sex worker BINGO card.

 





9 Comments

  1. It drives me crazy too. I had a super regular like clockwork guy that I let bargain a lower rate since he always does a 3 hour appt once a month and he begged - and then he disappeared. Then another regular like clockwork guy waits till the end of our 30th session to tell me he's "a little short today" - I know I should get the money first, but after 30 sessions of being polite and reliable? WTF!

    Comment by Tara — March 18, 2011 @ 5:34 pm

  2. Pick only two? "Pays well" and "reliable", every fucking time. :-)

    Comment by Maggie McNeill — March 19, 2011 @ 4:37 pm

  3. Oh I'm hearing ya. I routinely have guys make appointments and not show. Especially frustrating when you've had to turn down a walk-in.

    Comment by Laura — March 20, 2011 @ 4:38 am

  4. Drives me absolutely UP A WALL. Like because I'm a sex worker, you feel entitled to pull this shit? Would you pull it with your plumber, or electrician? (Then again, I've met people who would... grrr.)

    Wanting to move more into Domme work in the future, I wonder what other people's experience has been with taking deposits via paypal or some other service... I deeply, deeply want to institute a "wasting my time" charge.

    I also want to say that at strip clubs, clients will pull this crap all the time. Srsly guy... you're nice and all, but why do you suppose I'm taking work time to talk to you?

    Comment by Miss C — March 21, 2011 @ 2:53 pm

  5. See, we all hate the same bullshit!

    Maggie: I also pick "pays well" and "reliable", given the choice, but it frustrates the hell out of me that SO MANY TIMES I meet a cam client who's into the same kinks as me, we seem to really hit it off, and then they end up being flakes. Arg! Where are all the reliable, well-paying dudes into gender-fuckery, crossdressing, and force-bi fantasies?

    Comment by Furry Girl — March 21, 2011 @ 10:06 pm

  6. When I was working (since retired), this drove me nuts. I seriously think for many of the men I worked with, part of it was serving their kink though, and really complicated ones at that; there were the ones who enjoyed appearing reliable and then enjoyed the psychodrama aspect of begging for forgiveness when they 'messed up,' and then there were the ones who worked up to a certain level of genuine (seeming) intimacy and would disappear. After a while, I started using the same rules as a dentist's office: call before you'll be late, no emails, and if you give less than 24 hours notice you lose the privilege of appointments. You can sweat in line with the other guys. I was a cam/phone girl, and the 'cue' could get pretty long if they weren't on the appointment list.

    But this might've just been my client set. Very bratty subs and psychoGFE oriented. Who knows.

    Comment by PJ — March 23, 2011 @ 12:14 pm

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