by Furry Girl
06.14.10
"My generation saw in The Graduate that there is one romantic strategy to use above all others: persistence. This same strategy is at the core of every stalking case. Men pursuing unlikely or inappropriate relationships with women and getting them in a common theme promoted in our culture. Just recall Flashdance, Tootsie, The Heartbreak Kid, 10, Blame it on Rio, Honeymoon in Vegas, Indecent Proposal.
This Hollywood formula could be called Boy Wants Girl, Girl Doesn't Want Boy, Boy Harasses Girl, Boy Gets Girl. Many movies teach you that if you just stay with it, even if you offend her, even if she says she wants nothing to do with you, even if you've treated her like trash (and sometimes because you've treated her like trash), you'll get the girl.
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Even if men and women in America spoke the same language, they would still live by much different standards. For example, if a man in a movie researches a woman's schedule, finds out where she lives and works, even goes to her workplace uninvited, it shows his commitment, proves his love. When Robert Redford does this to Demi Moore in Indecent Proposal, it's adorable. But when she shows up at his work unannounced, interrupting a business lunch, it's alarming and disruptive.
If a man in the movies wants a sexual encounter or applies persistence, he's a regular, everyday guy, but if a woman does the same thing, she's a maniac or a killer. Just recall Fatal Attraction, The King of Comedy, Single White Female, Play Misty For Me, The Hand That Rocks the Cradle, and Basic Instinct. When men pursue, they usually get the girl. When women pursue, they usually get killed."
-- Gavin de Becker, in his book, The Gift of Fear.
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This one weirded me out a bit That One Time that I've flown Air India: the Bollywood movies were cool (and subtitled), the Panjabi sitcoms were extremely bizarre (and not subtitled), and the music videos took the Hollywood formula, and drove it to an extreme. In three minutes, a creep who acted just a few hairs short of actual rape managed to - by repetition of this - move a pretty girl from outright and uncomfortable rejection to starry eyed adoration.
Comment by Mikael Vejdemo-Johansson — June 14, 2010 @ 9:32 pm