by Furry Girl
04.30.10
"Still, it does exist, and it's going to be a very... interesting experience socially when my voice drops to some extent and I'm consistently read by strangers as male. As it is now, if I'm walking down the street near a woman who's alone, she will read me as a male and act cautious, but when I say something, I'm immediately non-threatening and everything is okay. I'm predicting that I will have to adjust to suddenly becoming a threatening person for women, to being interacted with differently and expected to conform to a slew of 'male' stereotypes, so on and so forth. And it's sad that a lot of these stereotypes are based in truth."
-- Mel, in Frakking Gender! on humancomplaints.com
I like reading personal stories from trans folk. I found this thought from Mel (yay - a fellow vegan!) on how women read him to be particularly interesting to contemplate. (Pst - he's seeking help to pay for his top surgery, so read his blog and consider a donation.)
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I have no experience being female, but a lot of the gender roles of being male are definitely a bummer. Being viewed as a threat was something that kind of took me awhile to get used to. I generally make a point to not walk behind women at night, and if possible to just take another route. It's weird though, realizing that due to your gender you're perceived as a potential rapist, and having to actively try and figure out how to send out "I'm not a creep" vibes.
Comment by Royce Icon — July 5, 2010 @ 1:59 am