by Furry Girl
08.13.10
"In wanting the world to understand me, so too do I strive to communicate in a way that is understandable. Such is the beauty and the pain that is felt by anyone who belongs to a 'non-normative' community, we want to be who we are but we don’t want to be not normal forever so we conform in an attempt to educate, to promote, to belong, if not in a conventional in way, in a way so that we stretch convention so someday we won’t have to stretch it anymore."
-- Dylan Ryan, in Queer on dylanryanx.com
One of the big themes in my life this year has been realizing how profoundly and permanently non-normative (*cough*abnormal*) I am- and that it's okay.
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I'm also a bit of an odd bird, and I've had a lot of trouble accepting myself and my sexuality in general. A few weeks ago, I came across your website, having no idea what it was beyond someone's blog, and spent a few minutes simply staring at your profile picture. I was stunned. The confidence necessary to take such a picture, to post it for everyone to see...!
Slowly, I'm getting better at accepting myself and everything that that entails, but I wanted to say thank you for being so abnormal and so obviously comfortable with yourself. You'll probably always be a main example in my mind of beauty and self-pride.
Comment by Falcon — August 15, 2010 @ 7:01 pm
Thank you, Falcon. That's sweet of you to say.
Comment by Furry Girl — August 15, 2010 @ 7:28 pm