amber needs to make it absolutely clear that she is only a sex worker ally and not an actual sex worker WHENEVER she posts an opinion on the industry.

i have seen other people that do this and come off like they are helping but they are really only helping themselves.

they don't "actually" lie, but they don't "actually" tell the truth either.

because of her dishonest representation, i would be looking for the hidden agenda behind anything "good" she appears to be doing for us. if she's not one of us, then what would she have to gain by fighting for us ?

if you think the answer is nothing, perhaps you should look into getting a catscan. in fact, i have one in perfect condition right here that i can sell to you.

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Funny, as somebody who wasn't involved with S2.0, just reading your own posts about the topic looks to me *exactly* like you were carrying out some ideological policing and really dumping on Match for lack of ideological purity. While the whole bruhaha about the pole dancing stuff struck me as kind of petty, from the above posts, I can see exactly why some people are PO'd at you.

Oh, thanks for clarifying, in your condescending, passive-aggressive way. Now I understand that when I criticize you on my blog, it's a cruel personal attack, and when you criticize people on your blog, you're merely "raising concerns". Thanks for the laugh.

And actually, it so happens that I don't feel like you have any business whatsoever "raising concerns", since you abandoned Sex 2.0 after the first year and didn't participate in making it happen the second year. You don't get to bitch and moan about transparently-organized projects you refuse to contribute to. You had EXCEEDINGLY AMPLE opportunity to steer the vibe of the conference in whatever direction pleased you most- you could have done a session (or two), a pre- or post- con get-together, or reached out to potential speakers you do approve of and personally invited them to give a talk. Everyone was free to do whatever they pleased- the whole thing was organized on a list serve and Google docs where ANYONE could get their two cents in. If people didn't follow any of that, they still could sign up for leading a session the day of the conference. And what did you do? You sat back and "raised concerns" on your blog about how what other people worked hard to create just wasn't good enough for you, most notably the hard work of Match, the conference organizer.

What it looked like to me is that you wanted to sabotage the conference by starting it off with a dark cloud of drama because you just couldn't stand that a man could organize a sex-positive event as well, or even better, than your perfect enlightened feminist self did.

http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2009/04/28/thoughts-on-sex-20-past-present-and-future/

http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2009/04/30/thoughts-on-sex-20-thoughts/

I think a personal blog is the very definition of 'private' on the internet. Really classy coming along to someone's personal space and telling them what not to write about.