Sex work *is* work, in anecdote form

by Furry Girl

10.26.09

Years ago, I was eating with a friend and a few of his enlightened lefty activist buddies.

I was aware that a number of his self-righteous feminist pals had a problem with what I do, so I generally stayed away from them, choosing to socialize with my friend one-on-one, when we'd make vegan cookies and watch scifi.  (An associate of his once tried to pick a fight with me inside an upscale restaurant, loudly accusing me in public that I "think it's a good thing to rape children".)

On this particular awkward occasion, I don't recall a certain woman at our table saying anything to me during the meal, nor had she and I ever met before.  I ordered something small, like an appetizer or a milkshake.  When the bill came, I tipped the waitress something like 50% of the cost of what I ate.

The previously-quiet woman gave me the stink eye and snottily said, "You know, for the kind of money you make, you really should be tipping more.  These woman actually have to work for their money."

Remind me that part again about how the left is sexually liberated and right-wingers are my enemy?  I prefer my old-school Republican/Libertarian father who supports my right to sell sexuality over these "enlightened" feminist asses any day of the week.





2 Comments »

  1. short and cute but definitely is always good to remember that the left and those of us who do sex work are not always natural allies. i know that in toronto, it's been an uphill battle to get unions and such to recognize that sex work *is* work though they've recently sponsored some sex work related events. still seems a bit more tokenistic.

    Comment by drew — October 26, 2009 @ 9:23 pm

  2. I agree with Drew. To be honest, any extreme is a problem simply because it is not balanced. I read this blog post before I read the about section (header statement). Since I read stuff in that order on this page, it is easy to see why you feel the way you do about being a "former "sex-positive feminist" who grew tired of trying to shoehorn my life into a feminist analysis. I have liberated myself from women's liberation, and it feels glorious"

    Incidentally, I think I followed you from my Twitter account at one time. Thanks for being sex-positive.

    Comment by Kat — October 26, 2009 @ 9:41 pm

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