by Furry Girl
08.30.09
"Some feminists say that sexual female submission, or violent sex, is never okay. Clearly as someone who both seeks and gives such, I don't agree. It's also been suggested that my social conditioning makes me equate violence and sex. 'Spose that's possible, but I don't like arguments that assume I am stupid and blind."
- Calico, in Unforgivables on blog.misscalico.com
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- Don't act as though our life experiences are invalidated because we haven't read such-and-such feminist book
- Don't ask us questions about how to get into sex work because you imagine it's easy
- Don't be all awkward and creepy when you discover that we're a sex worker
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- Don't you dare lecture sex workers with how you, an outsider, think we ought to feel about our lives
- Never be afraid to speak up for what's right, even if it's socially untoward to do so
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Resource sites
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- Sex Work Awareness
- Sex Workers Outreach Project
- The Internet Escort's Handbook
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Comment by Calico — August 30, 2009 @ 10:07 pm
Love your blog! :)
Those lines from you sum up a how I feel about a lot of "feminist analyses" of sexuality.
Comment by Furry Girl — August 30, 2009 @ 10:15 pm
I'm reading a history book on slavery, and the author argues that if you declare EVERY master/slave sex encounter rape as some are wont to do, you are stripping the slave woman of dignity and individuality.
So Sally Hemings liaison with Thomas Jefferson is a different situation than the one Celia, a slave in MO, had with her master. He raped her repeatedly for five years. She finally ended up killing him and burning him up in her fireplace. She was hanged for the murder.
There's some violence for ya.
Comment by The Beautiful Kind — September 18, 2009 @ 3:52 am
I'm always rather confused by people who can't seem to wrap their heads around the idea of *consensually* rough or violent sex as something some people enjoy.
I mean, I do occasionally wonder if maybe my own masochism might stem partly from eroticizing trauma, but you know what? I don't care if it is or not; it's fun, and that's more important to me!
Comment by Lanthir Calendae — February 27, 2010 @ 8:53 pm