by Furry Girl
How did you get into sex work?
When I was 17, I read a book called Good Time Girls of the Alaska-Yukon Gold Rush by Lael Morgan, and was fascinated by the strong, feisty, independent women who left behind comfortable lives and families to become sex workers in the harsh north. I pondered my options for joining Team Ho, and decided to give porn a try once I hit 18. I did my first day shoot in LA in May of 2002 for a big online porn company, where the creepy, fumbly photographer and I cranked out 20 solo photosets of me in various outfits, looking increasingly tired/bored as the day wore on. I was paid $750, and the porn site paid the photographer $1250. I realized I was doing it wrong, and researched starting my own company. I launched my first site in January of 2003 with a startup cost of a few thousand dollars. I now operate four membership porn sites, three of which are comprised mainly of other performers/models, and a small specialty store selling vegan sex products. I don't make piles of easy money the way many people assume I do, but I love calling all the shots and not having to work for anyone else.
So, uh... what kind of sex worker are you? Are you a hooker? Why not?
I work primarily in indie porn, and also do private web cam shows, which is like being a work-from-home peep show performer. I've also dabbled in a little bit of pro-domming/fetish work in person, but that's rare. Since 2002, I have been involved in things where money has exchanged hands, involved all genders, and orifices have been penetrated in every configuration, but I have never actually had a man pay me to put his penis in me. I find that funny. I am not at all morally opposed to prostitution, I just doubt it's for me. Never say never, though.
You were obviously raped or molested as a kid, right?
No, but thanks for trying to use that as a means to discredit me. It's very "right on" of you to use accusations of surviving sexual violence to make fun of women and deny them a right to make decisions and express themselves.
What's your educational background?
I have a general disdain for the theory class. I barely completed junior high, and I use the term "completed" only in the sense that they allowed me register for high school, where I soon stopped showing up all together. Before totally dropping out, I started out as an overachiever kid with killer standardized test scores and dweeby extracurriculars like the Science Olympiads. Then, I had the important epiphany that school was optional, and that there were much more engaging uses of my time and energies. Dropping out of school is, by far, one of the best decisions of my life.
What are your politics?
I am an antiauthoritarian pragmatist who has a low tolerance for pretension, bullshit, and asshattery. I pick and choose the best bits of many philosophies like a cheapskate assembling a full meal from cocktail garnishes and condiment packets. I am an atheist with an equal-opportunity distaste for all religions, since every single religion is anti-sex, anti-woman, anti-queer, anti-critical thinking, and anti-science. I rejects all forms of superstition and faith-based "medicine," from communion to homeopathy. I am also vegan, because I don't believe in exploiting and killing others for my temporary amusement, including animals.
Why would you NOT want call yourself a feminist? Barring being a feminist, the only option left is that you must be a misogynist.
I don't call myself a suffragette, either, but that doesn't mean I am against women being allowed to vote. I consider myself very much anti-sexist and pro-equality, because sexism is still a problem in my society. However, oppressive attitudes based on gender and sexuality are frequently perpetuated by people who call themselves feminists, and anti-male sexism (perpetuated by feminists in particular) is on the rise.
What could you possibly have against feminism? It's the bestest thing since rainbow kitten cupcakes!
For starters: "feminism" doesn't have anything close to a singular meaning, so you can't even discuss it without a hundred qualifiers and caveats; the feminist pendulum in the West has run its course and too often turns into pointless misandry; feminism used to be about women's right to be more than just barefoot and pregnant, and now it fights for the "right" of women to be barefoot and pregnant and be given a ton of government and corporate handouts for churning out babies; feminism is commonly embraced by people whose underlying beliefs are that women are stupid, feeble creatures who need to be controlled and saved; feminism these days focuses way too much on imaginary first-world problems like women who choose to feel badly about themselves because they think they're not pretty enough; some feminist leaders are obsessed with fanning and exploiting insecurities in women in order to indoctrinate them to their style of victim feminism, rather than being positive and helping women see that they can be strong and powerful. Last but not least: it's REALLY FUCKING DIFFICULT to spend your entire life being picked on by girls and women for various reasons, then swallow the idea that women are your true sisters and that men are the cruel enemy that oppresses you. Bitches be crazy, yo.
What do you mean when you use the terms "feminist" and "feminism"?
Except when noted, I'm referring to the feminisms of Western, industrialized nations - the sort spouted by shrill, irritating people with too much time on their hands and a bizarre desire to feel oppressed by everything. I know that not all feminists are anti-sex crusaders and/or feeble-minded hysterics, but those rare exceptions don't disprove that the majority of feminist-identified people are oftentimes working against the things I believe in, not for them.
Are you a mean and spiteful person?
Only some of the time. I come across more abrasive online than I am as an overall person because I don't create heaps of "filler content" for my "online persona" the way other "internet personalities" consciously do while building their brand. I don't have the time or interest to create pointless fluff to try and make myself seem relatable.
I'm a journalist/student/blogger/aspiring author, can I interview you?
Maybe. I hate doing interviews in general because so many people usually only want me to talk about pointless navel-gazing bullshit like "can sex work be empowering?" Please read my post for writers and students before contacting me.
Here's a link I found to a feminist blog post that's anti-sex work, will you come jump into the comments?
I get a lot of people sending me links to anti-sex work blog posts, urging me to go and set everyone straight. Sorry, I've wasted enough of my life debating with random internet users on their own tiny blogs and forums. It bores me to tears now. I fully welcome you to jump in and fight with them if you like, though.
[Last updated September 2011.]
Furry Girl: a good time not yet had by all.
- I operate SWAAY.org, an accessible sex workers' rights site that educates the general public about our lives and our issues.
- I've been vegan for 14 years because I don't believe in exploiting and killing others for my own petty amusements.
My adult sites
- Cocksexual.com: Strapons
- EroticRed.com: Menstruation
- FurryGirl.com: Unshaved
- TheSensualVegan.com: Store
- VegPorn.com: Herbivores
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New to my blog? Some favorite posts
- "You have no right to dislike feminism after all it's done for you!"
- "You misrepresent true feminism by focusing on the bad feminists. They're not real feminists anyway!"
- An argument for more sex workers to be out?
- Degrading, violent desires
- Do you have what it takes to be an empowered sex worker?
- Feminism is the shitty relationship you had in your early 20s
- Feminist porn isn't a branch of sex workers' rights, it's an obstacle
- How are we branding sex workers rights in the US? (Let's focus more on *worker*, less on *sex*!)
- How to do your homework on trafficking, "rescue", and the affected communities
- Let's stop pretending that "objectification" is a thing that exists
- Musings on ethical porn and the red herrings of "feminist porn" and "violent porn"
- My call for a "working" class uprising against inaccessible discourse and the over-representation of dabblers
- Sex trafficking is the new crack: manufactured "epidemics" as political tools
- The common logical fallacies deployed by anti-sex worker activists
- Things I've gained from being a sex worker: an anti-paternalistic perspective
- Vigilantism and 'crushing bastards': in praise of anger, hatred, and taking joy in the smiting of one's enemies
- Want to play BINGO with the antis?
- Watch out for psuedoscience: my long-time nemeses of concern trolling and "teaching the controversy"
- What do I mean when I say "sex worker"? Why I'm against an overly-broad definition
- Why I call them "anti-sex worker" rather than "anti-porn" or "anti-prostitution," and why you should too
Favorite sex/ho blogs
- Amanda Brooks
- Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers
- Belle de Jour
- Born Whore
- Bound, Not Gagged
- Dan Savage on SLOG
- Danny Wylde
- Jiz Lee
- Laura Agustín
- Lux Nightmare [2006-2007]
- Maggie McNeill
- Our Porn, Ourselves
- Sequoia Redd
- Serpent Libertine
- Sexonomics by Brooke Magnanti
- Shit They Say to Sex Workers
- Stuff Sex Workers Eat